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Why do we buy toys for our children? Part 1 of 3.

Why do we buy toys for our children?As parents, practically, you don’t need a reason to buy toys. But is it the correct way? 

Please also read Do children need a room full of toys? Rethink.

No, it is not. We cross by the shop and we buy a toy because our child likes those building blocks or cars.

Why do we buy toys for our children? Part 1 of 3.

 Following could to some of the occasions we buy toys:

  • It is our child’s birthday, or any such occasion.
  • It is sibling’s birthday, and we don’t want the other child in the house to feel left out, so we buy two of them.
  • We are visiting a mall or shopping for something else and our child starts to disturb us. To do our work uninterrupted, we buy a diversion for our kid.
  • We are going outstation, and ourchild is not enjoying the event or trip, we buy one more diversion. Even if we have a shelf full at home.
  • We are with some friends and they bought a toy for their child, so we get influenced to buy one for our kid, because we must. (sounds crazy, but how many of us can say NO, to this)
  • If we have siblings fighting for the toys at home most of the time, we buy two toys next time, to avoid any fighting at home.
  • We are we happy for some reason, we buy toys for our kids
  • We are feeling  guilty of scolding, we buy toys.
  • Child got hurt, we buy toys to calm him or her down.
As parents/elders we are in these situations when we can not avoid gifting a new toy to our child. They deserve to have toys with them. Because it is their age to enjoy and play with toys.

As parents/elders we are in these situations when we can not avoid gifting a new toy to our child. They deserve to have toys with them. Because it is their age to enjoy and play with toys. 

But can we just avoid doing it too much? 

Why do we buy toys for our children? Part 1 of 3.

These points are not mentioned here,to stop giving toys to our children.

Read the above points again and you might notice, some buying could have been avoided.

Some suggestions, for the next time there is an urge to buy toys:

  • What’s the occasion?
  • Can buy a team game, instead of buying individual toys? (this might create a better environment at home. )
  • What kind of toy, my child is most interested in?
  • Do I really have to buy toys of the same nature, and make a collection of the same. ( if your child loves car, do you really need to buy twenty more cars, and make a collection out of it. Are you not limiting his or her imagination.)
  • Am I buying this toy because i like it and i want my child to like it too. (if this is the reason, please buy  that toy, and make sure you play that game with your child.)
  • Am I buying it as a showoff? (it is always better to develop the habit of sharing between the kids. 
  • If you are feeling happy, give some time to your child. Your time is more valuable than the toy.
  • You have scolded your child for some reason, don’t buy gifts, take him outdoors, play with him, and slowly tell him your good intentions, worries and reason behind that scolding.
  • Child is hurt, and this might divert his attention. (very personal choice and differ from child to child)

Hope these points are of some use to you. Please mention in comments box if you have any other reason for buying toys, to the kids who already have plenty of toys to play.

Do read the part 2, list of mindset while buying the toys.

Do read Why do we buy toys for our children? Part 3 of 3. (final decision)

A Happy childhood is the most precious gift we can give to our child.

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