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5 reasons why your Child BITES

When your child bites, you feel bad for the way your child is behaving and also for the victim who nurses a throbbing red mark. Other parents are appalled. You wish you could just sink into the ground. For your child’s age, this could be the most antisocial work. When your child bites, you feel bad for the way your child is behaving and also for the victim who nurses a throbbing red mark. When your child bites, you feel bad for the way your child is behaving and also for the victim who nurses a throbbing red mark. Other parents are appalled. You wish you could just sink into the ground. For your child’s age, this could be the most antisocial work.

If a child bites an apple it's OK, but biting others is not. Find about 5 reasons why your child bites.
If a child bites an apple it’s GOOD, but not when he bites someone else. Find about 5 reasons why your child bites. Photo by Saya Kimura from Pexels

Not all kids bite, but experts say up every 4th child will do at some stage – mostly between the ages of 2 & 3. It is a phase that passes by 4 yrs, most children have grown out of it. Some try the odd bite and move on, others grow into REGULAR biters.

And when we are talking about regular biters, it’s a serious issue. It hurts to see the victim in so much pain. This could also get your child kicked out of nursery. It doesn’t mean your child is a monster – many biters are otherwise gentle and sociable.

5 Reasons Why do children bite?

Understanding why a child bites is key to beating the problem. Not all children bite out of anger or to hurt another child – in fact kids can’t really understand how much pain they’re causing. “Question yourself what the child is gaining by biting,”

“Think what the reward is for him or her – does he get a huge amount of attention?”

Experts advise parents to try and see biting as a way of communicating rather than just bad behaviour – once we do that, we’ve got more choices in how to respond.

5 Reasons Why do children bite?

  1. Expressing emotion: Oddly enough, young toddlers can bite as a way of showing love. “Toddlers have really intense feelings but don’t know how to show them, “Biting can be a way of expressing their feelings. Mothers often don’t understand why it’s just them who get bitten.”
  2. Experimenting: Toddlers are learning how their body works – they put things in their mouths, and sometimes bite.  It’s impulsive and they don’t mean to hurt. Often, a baby bites someone when they’re teething. Sometimes toddlers bite when they’re over-excited.
  3. Defending: Young children learn to bite as a defence, especially if they can’t talk. Sometimes when children are late at learning to speak, they use biting as their defence. They bite whenever they are anxious or feeling threatened. These children are trying to establish a safety zone. Sometimes changes or upsets at home can bring on this type of biting. 
  4. Controlling: Some children know biting as a method of getting to do what they want from the other children or their parents. They don’t always do this consciously. It may happen when a group of children are jostling to be leader. Sometimes the youngest child in the family bites to gain power. Those who have done this, knows biting is a fantastic way of getting attention, even if it’s negative, still purpose solved.
  5. Frustrated or irritated: Your child wants a toy back. Or they want a biscuit or adult attention, or can’t cope with a situation. They may not understand turn-taking and sharing. Or things may have changed at home or the child feels under stress. Your child doesn’t necessarily mean to cause harm, but just can’t find the words to express themselves.

As a parent, you just need to understand the causes behind this biting habit. Just handle the situation calmly next time. Comfort your child. 

Read 5 ways to stop child from biting. 

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

All the best wishes to you on this amazing journey. This will surely give us an easy life.

If these tips help you in finding your answer, please comment. You can also comment, if you are having any other questions related to parenting. 

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I am a teacher and mother of two. I am celebrating life with family and friends. Learning to love myself every day. I will be writing, on the things a mother, a woman, a parent might find helpful. " Whether you think you can, or think you can't - you're right." by Henry Ford.

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