How To Discipline Your Child
It is important to stick to some form of discipline consistently for your child. Parents also need to stick to those rules and consequences, if they don’t, their kids aren’t likely to either.
You will find some ideas about how to vary your approach to discipline your child to best fit your family.
From ages 3 to 5 yrs.
Now as your child is grown. He begins to understand the connection between actions and consequences. So start communicating the rules of your family’s home to him in simple ways.
What can be done:
- Before you punish your child for their behavior, explain to them what you expect. For example, when your child uses crayons, she will use it on the walls. Don’t scold. Discuss why that’s not allowed. Tell them the consequences that what will happen if your child does it again (for instance, your child will have to help clean the wall and will not be able to use the crayons for the rest of the day).
- You can also give them a particular area to do her artwork. Just paste some self stick Vinyl wallpaper. Ask your child to limit herself to that portion. And let her do the cleaning also. Or otherwise if you want her to stay limited to paper if the wall gets decorated again, issue a reminder that crayons are for paper only. And then enforce the consequences.
- Consistency is the key to effective discipline. It’s sometimes easier for parents to ignore occasional bad behavior or not follow through on consequences, this sets a bad precedent. This way kids will test limits. It’s important for parents to decide (together, if you are not a single parent) what are the rules of the house and then uphold them.
- Discipline is not just about punishment, it’s also about recognizing good behavior. While you become clear on what behaviors will not be accepted, don’t forget to reward good behaviors. Never undermine the positive effect that your praise can have on your child. Like saying “I’m proud of you for sharing your toys at playgroup” works better than punishing a child who didn’t share.
- Be specific when giving praise rather than just saying “Good job!” You want to make it clear which behaviors you liked. Being specific makes these behaviours more likely to happen in the future.
Rule you should remember:
The more attention we give to a behavior, the more likely it is to continue.
If your child continues an unacceptable behavior no matter what you do,then try
- Making a behaviour chart with a box for each day of the week. Decide with your child how many times your child can misbehave before a consequence kicks in or how long the proper behavior must be seen before it is rewarded. Make entries in the chart and then track the good and unacceptable behaviors every day. This will give your child (and you) a concrete look at how it’s going. Once this begins to work, praise your child for learning to control misbehavior (especially for overcoming any stubborn problem).
- For kids at this age timeouts also can work well. Pick a suitable timeout place that’s free of distractions, such as a chair or bottom step. Be alert on selecting a timeout place. “Getting sent to your room” isn’t effective if a computer, TV, or games are there. Also, remember a timeout is time away from any type of reinforcement. So your child shouldn’t get any attention from you while in a timeout which includes talking, eye contact, etc.
- Considering proper length of time for timeout is important. Be sure to consider what works best for your child.
Experts say rule you should remember:
1 minute for each year of age or timeout until the child is calmed down (to teach self-regulation).
What can be done:
- It’s important to make sure that if a timeout happens because your child didn’t follow directions, you follow through with the direction after the timeout.
- It’s important to tell kids what the right thing to do is not just to say what the wrong thing is. For example, instead of saying “Don’t jump on the couch,” try “Please sit on the furniture and put your feet on the floor.”
- Don’t confuse your child. Be sure to give clear, direct commands. Instead of “Could you please put your shoes on?” say “Please put your shoes on.” This leaves no room for confusion and does not imply that following directions is a choice.
Happy childhood is every child’s right.
Happy Parenting! All the best wishes to you on this amazing journey.
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Categories: Behavioral and Discipline Issues