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Thanks for being here. You were a good teacher and a friend to me. You filled my life with adventure. Ticks in the bucket list and new aims for future were some of the achievements.
You made me realise my potential. I realised how important it is to love myself before I love others. You taught me the importance of letting my emotions flow, allowing myself to be me. No shield, no covers. You taught me the essence of love, care and compassion. You gave me the courage to speak, to put my opinion on the matters I strongly feel. I learned the true meaning of love. The glow I carry with me is nothing but the love I receive. I got new family members and friends this year. Regained the old charm of friendship. I started learning to read people with you. You taught me to dance to the music of life. I learnt to accept myself the way I am. You made me realise that everyone in my life has a special place and purpose to play.
I got to meet people, some I am super impressed with and others who taught me why decision making is important. It is you who saved me from overthinking. You will always have a special place in my heart, life and personality.
My children to do it when they grow, but I can’t .
Don’t know anyone there, I will be alone.
What will others think when they see me going like a tortoise?
Lets run! It is tough, or is it?
I was bombarded with many more questions last week when Lets run, CG’s First Runners Community, featured me. They called me runner when I was just running for myself.
*They called me runner when I was just running for myself.
**They called me runner when I was just running for myself.
It is not a typo mistake. You are reading it right. That is how they operate. Yes, you are still reading it right. They operate that way.
So much of enthusiasm and cooperation in and around team. They don’t let anyone feel left out. Other than being part of two 100 days of running, I participated in the marathon organised by them twice. And you can take it from me it was well managed and disciplined. Best part being always on time.
Source of all these questions is this one page from lets run
Featured Runner
Roshni Shukla
A kindergarten teacher, part time house maker and mother of two. Yes, I do Run around my kids at home and school, but that is all.
– NOPE our Featured runners is a strong girl who took 100 days running challenge and dusted it.
Lets run, CG’s First Runners Community – they call themselves Passionate about running. They have some fixed days for Runs /Workouts. All Runs / Workouts schedule are posted on their Facebook page.
This is my experience with the run. I grew stronger after every attempt.
Now for those who are tempted to make an amazing memory, I have good news, Lets run is organizing a bigger event this time by the name The Great Chhattisgarh Run – TGCG. It is on 17th November 2019.
Now coming back to questions asked by people who got to know about me being featured runner.
My answer to them would be:
It is tough? —> It is not, if you really want to do it.
Will I be able to finish it? —> Yes, you will for sure. You will get a lot of encouragement en route.
But, I am not as fit as you? —>You can not judge your fitness before trying. Simple.
Don’t even exercise? —> It’s ok, you can always start it.
I want my children to do it when they grow, but I can’t. —> You can, so can your child. To increase your comfort, let me tell you, my son did his first 6 km at the age of 6 the same day when I was doing mine. My daughter did her first 6 km skating much before she turned 6. Lets run events could be safest exposure you could give to your child.
Don’t know anyone there, I will be alone. —> No, you will not be alone. There will be many to give you company if you really need it. Else take your friends and family. Marathon could be a good theme based meeting point for your circle.
What will others think when they see me going like a tortoise? —> If you think you will be a tortoise, don’t worry, the event will stay open till the last tortoise crosses the finish line.
You might find me there to cheer you up, if at all you are one of those tortoises. Hoping to meet you in the upcoming event.
Just do it. Give it a try to answer yourself.
Every man’s life ends the same way. It is only the details of how he lived and how he died that distinguish one man from another.
Toys, Do children need a room full of toys? Rethink. This is how I evaluate myself every time when I pass by a toy store and my two sets of twinkling eyes look at me with so much of hope and excitement. But Thanks to God, my children now understand, they don’t need to own every toy they see in the market.
Evaluating need of toys:
Best place for all of us to visit with kids could be Disney land. The best place for a child in a shopping complex could be a toy shop or a play zone. That in a resort could be play arena. The best place in playschool may be toys rooms.
But have we ever wondered why Sports Room, in a formal school, never comes under this lists of favorites?
Just go back in time, and what did we find? It was the sports ground that was always at the top in the list of favorite places to be in a school.
Best sources of toys at home:
Children get toys, from their family, friends and now a days even food joints like McDonalds. They play with these toys for a while and then it occupies a space in their almirah.
It is not that kids don’t play with their toys, they do.
Your child might have an almirah full of toys, due to two reasons:
It’s the best gift that makes a child happy.
It’s the best thing we provide as compensation.
Some of us also have a notion, that if a child possess more toys means he is happy.
But we sometimes miss the point, what kind of toy does your child need.
And What is the thing that our children ask for?
Answer: Time to play.
Our children need time to play with the toys. They need time to go out and play in open. Also time to play and get dirty in soil, and this stays true for all ages.
Just give them time to play, they will be happier.
My Long Drive. जरा वो बाइक देखो, शायद वो दोनो लड़कियां स्कूल में पढ़ती हैं, घर जा रही होंगी।
दिन भर स्कूल के बाद दोनो थक गई है।
फिर भी सड़क पर, अपनी बाइक में, पीछे अपनी दोस्त को बैठाए उस लड़की की मुस्कान देखो।
ऐसा स्वतंत्र महसूस करती है वो इस गाड़ी में बैठकर। उसको फिर सारे दिन घर का नियम कानून मानना, हर बात पे टोका जाना, तुम लड़की को, जरा संभल कर चलो, अंधेरा होने से पहले लौट आयो, कपड़े तो ऐसे ही पहनो ये सब ग्वारा होता है।
चलो ना ड्राइव पर चलें। आज तो दिन ही लांग ड्राइव का है।
वो मेरी वाली लॉन्ग ड्राइव/ My Long Drive.
उस दुबले से लड़के को देखो, दुबला पतला, देखने में तो कोई मनमौजी लगता है।
अपनी ही धुन में, शायद उसे खेल कूद का भी शौक है। हेलमेट लगा हुआ है, तो चहरा नहीं दिख रहा।
पर जरा से झुके कंधों से लगता है, जिम्मेदारियां भी बहुत लिए घूम रहा है।
गाड़ी रोक पैरों को सड़क पर रख कर, जिस राहत से उसने अपनी शर्ट की कॉलर का बटन खोला है।
लगता है मौसम उसको भी अच्छा लगा है।
वो मेरी वाली लॉन्ग ड्राइव/ My Long Drive
उस बाइक को देखो ना एक माता पिता बैठे हैं। जिस के एक हाथ में झोला है, बीच में एक बच्चा भी है।
माता पिता ने तो हेलमेट पहना है। मगर बच्चे के बाल जो हवा में उड़ कर मुंह पर आ रहे हैं, वो ही खेल बन गया है उसका।
और वो कार में बैठे पति पत्नी।
सिग्नल पर आते ही पानी पीने बॉटल उठाई पति ने। शायद पानी है नहीं उसमे।
पत्नी ने धीरे से कार का कांच खोला।
हाथ बाहर निकाल कर शायद वो इस मौसम को अपनी मुट्ठी में भर कर अपने साथ ले जाना चाहती है।
पत्नी ने आदतन ही अपनी बॉटल निकाल कर दे दी उसे।
वो मेरी वाली लॉन्ग ड्राइव/ My Long Drive
हा हा हा, उस कुत्ते को तो देखो, अपने मालिक मालकिन के साथ कार में घूम रहा है।
कैसे खिड़की से बाहर मुंह निकले है। लगता है आज पूरी ठंडी हवा वो ही खा लेगा। लार टपका रहा है।
बगल से गुजर रहे बच्चों को देख कर खेलना चाहता है, पर कुछ बच्चे उससे डर रहे हैं, और कुछ उसको चिढ़ा रहे हैं।
मालकिन ने पीछे हाथ से चैन पकड़ रखी है, वरना तो वो आज खिड़की से कूदने को तैयार बैठा है।
उसकी इस हरकत से आगे बैठे दोनो कितना हंस रहे हैं। हर बार की कार यात्रा का ये ही खेल है।
वो मेरी वाली लॉन्ग ड्राइव/ My Long Drive
पान की दुकान के पास वाली उस बड़ी गाड़ी को देखो, guitar रखा है जिसमें पिछे।
उसमे शायद कोई संगीत प्रेमी बैठा है। पास रखी पानी की बॉटल का पानी भी बंद गाड़ी में हिल रहा है।
जरूर ज्यादा बेस में गाना चल रहा है अंदर।
गाड़ी रुकी है तो कांच में देख कर चहरे पर आ रहे बाल भी ठीक कर लिए हैं।
आजादी का ये पल तो उसे भी अच्छा लग रहा है।
चलें आज हम भी लॉन्ग ड्राइव पे। वो मेरी वाली लॉन्ग ड्राइव/ My Long Drive.
My Long Drive. उस चमकती गाड़ी को देखो,
ऐसा लगता है, आज विशेष रूप से घंटों लगा कर साफ़ हुई है।
अंदर बैठा आदमी भी बड़ा तैयार सा बैठा है।
बार बार कांच में देख कर मुस्कुरा रहा है, अपने आप से ही बातें कर रहा है।
कुछ लोग जब खुश होते हैं, तो खुद से ही बातें करने लगते हैं। मौसम का रंग तो इस पर भी चढ़ा है।
उस गाड़ी को भी देखो, पूरी भरी है।
अंदर हंसी ठहाका हो रहा है, ये लोग भी शायद आज मौसम का स्वाद चखने घर से निकले हैं।
वो मेरी वाली लॉन्ग ड्राइव/ My Long Drive
और वो वाली गाड़ी देखो, अरे वाह! देखो, उसमे पीछे की सीट लेटा कर बच्चों का कमरा बन गया है।
माता पिता आगे बैठे हैं, और बच्चे पीछे आराम से खेल रहे हैं।
My Long Drive
देखो छोटे छोटे कुशन भी पड़े हैं। शायद बच्चे खेल कर यहीं सो भी जाएं।
और जरा सड़क के उस पार, उस इमारत को देखो।
वो देखो सबसे ज्यादा हरियाली वाली वो बालकनी। वो मुझे हमेशा ही अच्छी लगती है।
कभी कभी वहां चिड़िया, कुछ अच्छे दिये लटकते है। देखो गौतम बुद्ध की एक प्रतिमा भी रखी है वहां।
अक्सर वहां से एक लड़की मुझे देख कर मुस्कुराती है। उसे भी शायद प्रकृति को देखना खूब पसंद है।
अक्सर हमारी नजरें तब टकराती है जब मैं यूं अपनी खिड़की से बाहर झांकती हूं और वो अपनी चाय का कप लिए अपनी बालकनी पे होती है। आज भी देखो वो वहीं बैठी है, मौसम से हर्षाती हुई।
वो मेरी वाली लॉन्ग ड्राइव/ My Long Drive
ओह! बच्चों को खेलने भेजने का टाइम हो गया। आज तो उनको भी मज़ा आएगी, इस मौसम में उछल कूद करने में।
चलो गाड़ी में छोड़ आते हैं उन्हें। फिर एक राउंड वो मेरी वाली लॉन्ग ड्राइव भी हो ही जाएगी। अरे, थोड़ी हिम्मत करो, चलो।
वो मेरी वाली लॉन्ग ड्राइव/ My Long Drive
फिर क्या था, बच्चों को खुशी खुशी कार में बैठकर और खिड़की खोल कर चल पड़ी हमारी गाड़ी।
रास्ते में बच्चों ने रिमोट से कई बार गाने बदले। मन किया बोलूं कोई एक गाना चलने दो, फिर लगा, उनकी भी तो लॉन्ग ड्राइव है। ग्राउंड आ गया, उन्हें उतार कर गेट तक पहुंचा दिया मैंने।
अब चलें लॉन्ग ड्राइव पर। हां, गाड़ी मै चलाऊंगी, खिड़की के कांच चढ़ा दिए। एसी दो पर सेट। मेरे मोबाइल की फेवरेट गानों वाली लिस्ट ही बजेगी आज।
वो मेरी वाली लॉन्ग ड्राइव/ My Long Drive
और ये हुई गाड़ी चालू। लंबी सड़क, महौल को सूट करते प्यारे गाने।
कार में मुझे जोर जोर से गाना पसंद है, किससे शर्म? उंगलियां अब स्टेयरिंग पर नाचने लगी, गर्दन भी लय मिलाने लगी, कंधे तो इतने खुश हैं कि ताल पर उछल रहे हैं।
बहुत खुश हूं। दिमाग भी इतना ताज़ा जैसे अभी ध्यान करके उठी हूं।
बस इस पल में हूं, पूरा जी रही हूं। कान से कान तक मुस्कुरा रही हूं। और इस गाड़ी में अकेले बस अपने लिए गा रही हूं।
हां, आपने सही सुना, गाड़ी में मैं अपने लिए ही मुस्कुरा रही हूं।
मुझे खुद से बातें करना अच्छा लगता है।
ये मेरे पल हैं। सब के अलावा मुझे खुद के लिए भी तो खुश होना है।
ये यहीं नहीं रुकता, मुझे गाड़ी में अकेले मुस्कुराते और गाते देख कर शायद कोई राहगीर हंस पड़े।
पर उसे क्या पता मेरी इस लॉन्ग ड्राइव का जादू।
अगली बार आप भी चलिए मेरे साथ। मैंने कई बार अपनी खिड़की से बैठे बैठे आपको देखा है उसी सिग्नल पर।
यदि आपको भी लगता है कि मैं आपकी बात कर रही हूं तो मुझे अभी यहीं बताइए।
अगली बार आप उस सिग्नल पर आएं तो देखना, बायें हाथ तरफ के घरों में से एक घर की खिड़की से मैं आपको बाहर देखती मिल जाऊंगी।
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Let’s learn some precious life lessons from the project Rahul got at his school.
(Tuesday morning)
“Rahul,when is your science project submission date. “ “Mumma, it’s next Monday, we still have a week to finish.” ” Rahul, ask your classmates today, what are they making.” ” Why, Mumma?” “Because, your’s should be the best.”
(Thursday morning)
“Rahul, did anyone deposite their project?” “Yes, some have done. When will we do our project?” ” Don’t worry, I am there.”
(Saturday evening, after school)
” Rahul, don’t go for playing today, we have to do our project.”
(Sunday)
“Rahul, no playing, we have to decorate our project, it should look the best.”
(Monday, in school)
Teacher: ” Congratulations everyone, for finishing your project works on time. Please come and explain about your project.” Indeed Rahul’s project was well designed and presented.
But was it needed?Now let’s look at the unseen part of it, to learn our precious life lessons.
Tuesday 2:00 pm, Sarita, Rahul’s mom, had finished all her work, googled all the possible topics for son’s project. She made a list of all the projects, which they can do. Wednesday, she called some of her friends and relatives to enquire for the best topic to make the project. Then, struck off the common topics from her list. Thursday 2:00 pm, she deleted the topics that were done by Rahul’s classmates. Friday she collected all the requirements. Saturday 2:00 pm, she arranged every thing to one place.Night, Sarita sat with Rahul, after finishing her daily chores. Rahul was sleepy by 11:00 pm so Sarita finished some portions, just to help Rahul.Sunday, They sat again, this time they had to hurry up. Sarita helped him, by finishing most of his work. Rahul’s work was not very neat, so Sarita did the finishing tough to the project.They finished it on time.Monday, Rahul was feeling proud as he was praised by one and all.
Such a happy ending to the story of making a science project.
But, was it worth? Was it solving the purpose of project work? Was it by anyway helpful to the child?
You all might not like it, but the answer is NO. A big NO. Was Sarita student of that class? The answer is again NO.
NO. A big NO
Precious life lessons
You can replace mother in this story with father or any other elder. Parent’s mindset puts so much pressure on the learning of the child. It is not Happy parenting. By helping child in work, school projects we are not giving them precious life lessons or stress free childhood. If they do not learn their life lessons, they will not be able to cope up with the ups and downs in life. As long as the effort is done by anyone other than the person it to was meant be, the effort is useless. It’s not that a child of any age can do their work all alone. I am just saying,
BE THE GUIDE, DON’T BE ASSISTANT.
Help him by questions like,
what do you think should be our topic?
From where can we get the informative material?
Will you just collect some information, then, we will together discuss on the best doable topic.
Can you collect the required material, that we have at home, make a list of things we need to buy or arrange.
And many thought provoking questions like this. Let it be your child’s project.
And most importantly, it is not required that it appears best, it should solve it’s purpose the most.
Haha, as a mother, I know, it is tough to control ourselves from taking over the task, but have patience, it is possible.
And believe me, as a teacher, I can assure you, their teacher will like it more, when it is done by your child and not you.
Please make every small experience, a precious learning for life.
P.s. By making a project by his own, our child is taking small steps towards learning to handle his life. If you agree to this thought, please like, comment, share and follow. And also comment if you disagree at any point.
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