Why buy toys* for children? Part 2 of 3.

Toys*! Why do we buy toys* for our children? Part 2 of 3. (how do you decide what toys to purchase for your infants and toddlers?)

Why do we buy toys* for our children?As parents, practically, you don’t need a reason to buy a toy. But is it the correct way? 

Please also read Do children need a room full of toys? Rethink.

No, it is not. We cross by the shop and we buy a toy because our child likes those building blocks or cars. 

Do read the part 1, to know the list of  occasions we buy toys*.

Part 2 of 3

Why do we buy toys for our children?
Here we can list the mindset while buying the toys. As parents, while purchasing toys, these things are to be kept in mind:

Here we can list the mindset of parents, while purchasing toy or games:

  • Purpose: While purchasing or choosing from a collection of toys*, one should always remember the difference between a toy with no objective and a toy serving an objective. An objective oriented toy will stimulate the senses in a child, giving a chance to explore things around. Example: if your child likes cars or teddy bear, making a collection of the same will not stimulate the senses in the child.

  • Value for Money: With prices for many toys being high because of an associated “brand” value, it is wise to see if the toy really is worth the money paid in terms of entertainment or learning for the child. Check if the toy is relevant for an age as well as cultural perspective. Example: the same kind of board games are offered by many companies. If the packaging or the brand name is making the difference in price, please choose wisely.

  • Simple Toys: In the era of digitization, toys are getting more confusing and complex day by day. The golden rule for young children – the simpler it is, the more likely that they will enjoy it. Complex toys could potentially confuse the child by giving too many inputs simultaneously. So, keep it simple yet challenging.

  • Appeal: Fancy super colorful and filled with imagery could hit the eyes initially, but children are likely to just ignore all this after a couple of times of playing with it. Example: Kinder joy, children buy this chocolate for the excitement of getting the tiny attractions in the package, they play with it, for some time. Then it goes to some corner of the toy box. What will excite them, is the challenge. Classic examples are tops like bey-blades & fidget spinners. This catches the fancy of all older children, because they enjoy the challenges that these toys pose. For the younger children, wooden blocks/toys score really high on this factor of appeal.

  • Age Appropriate: Many a time when the toy is bought, it has all the features that an individual is looking for, but somehow it has not taken the child’s fancy fully. Usually the reason for this is that it may not be age appropriate. In the initial years, every phase for a child is critical, and every age group has some milestones to be fulfilled. So if the toy bought for the child is not appropriate to his or her age, he or she will either: (a) get bored fast if the toy is below their age, or (b) they may get irritated if the toy’s complexity is too much for them to handle. It is always wise to match children’s age to the appropriate toys to make their time joyful and interesting.

  • Safety: For obvious reasons safety is the greatest concern. Sometimes a child puts a toy in his or her month to explore and understand more about it. Unaware of any dangers due to sharp corners, the paint used on the toy, they choose to experiment with the toy. Keeping all this in mind it is necessary to look for preferably CE certified ones or the ones you have checked and assured keeping all the above points in mind.

  • Battery Operated Toys: Battery operated toys are made up of typically metal or plastic. These will obviously need periodic battery replacing. This is not environmentally friendly both in terms of the battery as well as the outer metal/ plastic case. Battery operated toys* also tend to take away the manual element in toys which young children need. Pressing buttons to move cars is less preferable to moving the car around manually. They also need a constant supply of batteries to work. 

  • Discovery and Exploration: While purchasing a toy, ensure it provides ample opportunities to explore and discover. When children start to discover different ways of playing with the toy, then they learn a lot while playing.

Buying specific toys for kids depends on kids interest & toy advantage to the kid growing age.

As a parent I would have always decided to buy educational toys & games for my kids which can enhance their learning skills & motivate them to get social as well.

Why do we buy toys for our children? Part 3 of 3. (final decision)

Hope these points are of some use to you. Please mention in comments box, your mindset for buying toys.

A Happy childhood is the most precious gift we can give to our child.

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Less toys more development

Development of a child will be more with lesser toys. While most of the space in our child’s almirah is filled with toys, we can become wise parents and learn to limit the number of toys that our kids have to play with.

Toys are not something to just play with. Toys form the building blocks for our child’s future and development. They teach our children about the world and about themselves. They send messages and communicate values. So, intelligent and wise parents think about what foundation is being laid by the toys that are given to their kids. And they want toys that lead to development of the child.

Wise parents also think about the number of toys that children are given. They understand that fewer toys will actually benefit their child’s development in the long-term:

  • Children learn to be more organised. They  live in a cleaner, tidier home. If you have children, you know that toy clutter can quickly take over an entire home. Fewer toys results in a less-cluttered, cleaner, healthier home.
Lesser toys will be more fruitful for the child's development. Having lesser toys, is a better idea to give your child a childhood full of learning. It is not that toys are not important for a child. They are important. But, we don't have to keep giving them a toy in the very first chance we get. Lesser toys will lead to better development of a child.

  • Increase in the creativity of a child. Too many toys prevent kids from fully developing their gift of imagination.  Although boredom set in during the initial stages of the experiment, the children soon began to use their basic surroundings to invent games and use imagination in their playing.
Lesser toys will be more fruitful for the child’s development.
  • Children learn perseverance. Children who have too many toys give up too quickly. If they have a toy that they can’t figure out, it will quickly be discarded for the sake of a different, easier one. Kids with fewer toys learn perseverance, patience, and determination.
Lesser toys will be more fruitful for the child’s development.
  • Children become less selfish. Kids who get everything they want believe they can have everything they want. 

  •  Kids establish better social skills. Children with fewer toys learn how to develop interpersonal relationships with other kids and adults. They learn the give and take of a good conversation. 

  • Children develop a sense of responsibility for their belongings. When kids have too many toys, they will naturally take less care of them. They will not learn to value them if there is always a replacement ready at hand. If you have a child who is constantly damaging their toys, just take a bunch away. He will quickly learn.
Lesser toys will be more fruitful for the child’s development.
  • Children experience more of nature. Children who do not have a basement full of toys are more apt to play outside and develop a deep appreciation for nature. They are also more likely to be involved in physical exercise which results in healthier and happier bodies.

  •  Due to Fewer options to play, kids develop a habit of reading, writing a learning faster than children who have lots of games to occupy their time. Fewer toys allows your children to love books, music, coloring, and painting. And a love for art will help them better appreciate beauty, emotion, and communication in their world.

  • Kids become more resourceful. Fewer toys causes children to become resourceful by solving problems with only the materials at hand. And resourcefulness is a gift with unlimited potential.
Lesser toys will be more fruitful for the child’s development.
  • Kids argue with each other less. This may seem counter-intuitive. Many parents believe that more toys will result in less fighting, because, there are more options available. However, the opposite is true far too often. Siblings argue about toys.

  •  Kids learn to find satisfaction outside of the toy store. True joy and contentment will never be found in the aisles of a toy store. Children need encouragement to live counter-cultural lives finding joy in things that truly last.

  • Increase in the attention span of a child. When too many toys are introduced into a child’s life, their are unable to pay attention to one set of toys. This decreases the attention span to a child. A child will rarely learn to fully appreciate the toy in front of them when there are countless options.

Having lesser toys, is a better idea to give your child a childhood full of learning. It is not that toys are not important for a child. They are important. But, we don’t have to keep giving them a toy in the very first chance we get.

Alternatively, we should limit the number of toys, and give our child a chance to explore things around him.

For more related questions also read:

Do children need a room full of toys? Rethink.

Why toy, games and puzzles are important?

Why do children like to have toys in their life?

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Make precious life lessons

Let’s learn some precious life lessons from the project Rahul got at his school.

(Tuesday morning)

“Rahul,when is your science project submission date. “
“Mumma, it’s next Monday, we still have a week to finish.”
” Rahul, ask your classmates today, what are they making.”
” Why, Mumma?”
“Because, your’s should be the best.”

(Thursday morning)


“Rahul, did anyone deposite their project?”
“Yes, some have done. When will we do our project?”
” Don’t worry, I am there.”

(Saturday evening, after school)


” Rahul, don’t go for playing today, we have to do our project.”

(Sunday)


“Rahul, no playing, we have to decorate our project, it should look the best.”

(Monday, in school)


Teacher: ” Congratulations everyone, for finishing your project works on time. Please come and explain about your project.” Indeed Rahul’s project was well designed and presented.

 But was it needed?Now let’s look at the unseen part of it, to learn our precious life lessons.

Tuesday 2:00 pm, Sarita, Rahul’s mom, had finished all her work, googled all the possible topics for son’s project. She made a list of all the projects, which they can do.
Wednesday, she called some of her friends and relatives to enquire for the best topic to make the project. Then, struck off the common topics from her list.
Thursday 2:00 pm, she deleted the topics that were done by Rahul’s classmates.
Friday she collected all the requirements.
Saturday 2:00 pm, she arranged every thing to one place.Night, Sarita sat with Rahul, after finishing her daily chores. Rahul was sleepy by 11:00 pm so Sarita finished some portions, just to help Rahul.Sunday, They sat again, this time they had to hurry up. Sarita helped him, by finishing most of his work. Rahul’s work was not very neat, so Sarita did the finishing tough to the project.They finished it on time.Monday, Rahul was feeling proud as he was praised by one and all. 

Such a happy ending to the story of making a science project.

But, was it worth? Was it solving the purpose of project work? Was it by anyway helpful to the child? 


You all might not like it, but the answer is NO. A big NO. Was Sarita student of that class? The answer is again NO.

NO. A big NO

Precious life lessons


You can replace mother in this story with father or any other elder. Parent’s mindset puts so much pressure on the learning of the child. It is not Happy parenting. By helping child in work, school projects we are not giving them precious life lessons or stress free childhood. If they do not learn their life lessons, they will not be able to cope up with the ups and downs in life. As long as the effort is done by anyone other than the person it to was meant be, the effort is useless.
It’s not that a child of any age can do their work all alone.
I am just saying, 

BE THE GUIDE, DON’T BE ASSISTANT.

Help him by questions like,

  •  what do you think should be our topic?
  • From where can we get the informative material?
  • Will you just collect some information, then, we will together discuss on the best doable topic.
  • Can you collect the required material, that we have at home, make a list of things we need to buy or arrange. 

And many thought provoking questions like this. 
Let it be your child’s project. 
  

And most importantly, it is not required that it appears best, it should solve it’s purpose the most.

Haha, as a mother, I know, it is tough to control ourselves from taking over the task, but have patience, it is possible.

And believe me, as a teacher, I can assure you, their teacher will like it more, when it is done by your child and not you.

Please make every small experience, a precious learning for life. 

P.s. By making a project by his own, our child is taking small steps towards learning to handle his life.
If you agree to this thought, please like, comment, share and follow. And also comment if you disagree at any point.

We Parents make all efforts to give our child a Happy childhood. While do so, at times we overdo. Please read, To know how you can save a preschooler from stress of learning.

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