Why buy toys for children? Part 1 of 3

Why do we buy toys for our children?As parents, practically, you don’t need a reason to buy toys. But is it the correct way? 

Please also read Do children need a room full of toys? Rethink.

No, it is not. We cross by the shop and we buy a toy because our child likes those building blocks or cars.

Why do we buy toys for our children? Part 1 of 3.

 Following could to some of the occasions we buy toys:

  • It is our child’s birthday, or any such occasion.
  • It is sibling’s birthday, and we don’t want the other child in the house to feel left out, so we buy two of them.
  • We are visiting a mall or shopping for something else and our child starts to disturb us. To do our work uninterrupted, we buy a diversion for our kid.
  • We are going outstation, and ourchild is not enjoying the event or trip, we buy one more diversion. Even if we have a shelf full at home.
  • We are with some friends and they bought a toy for their child, so we get influenced to buy one for our kid, because we must. (sounds crazy, but how many of us can say NO, to this)
  • If we have siblings fighting for the toys at home most of the time, we buy two toys next time, to avoid any fighting at home.
  • We are we happy for some reason, we buy toys for our kids
  • We are feeling  guilty of scolding, we buy toys.
  • Child got hurt, we buy toys to calm him or her down.
As parents/elders we are in these situations when we can not avoid gifting a new toy to our child. They deserve to have toys with them. Because it is their age to enjoy and play with toys.

As parents/elders we are in these situations when we can not avoid gifting a new toy to our child. They deserve to have toys with them. Because it is their age to enjoy and play with toys. 

But can we just avoid doing it too much? 

Why do we buy toys for our children? Part 1 of 3.

These points are not mentioned here,to stop giving toys to our children.

Read the above points again and you might notice, some buying could have been avoided.

Some suggestions, for the next time there is an urge to buy toys:

  • What’s the occasion?
  • Can buy a team game, instead of buying individual toys? (this might create a better environment at home. )
  • What kind of toy, my child is most interested in?
  • Do I really have to buy toys of the same nature, and make a collection of the same. ( if your child loves car, do you really need to buy twenty more cars, and make a collection out of it. Are you not limiting his or her imagination.)
  • Am I buying this toy because i like it and i want my child to like it too. (if this is the reason, please buy  that toy, and make sure you play that game with your child.)
  • Am I buying it as a showoff? (it is always better to develop the habit of sharing between the kids. 
  • If you are feeling happy, give some time to your child. Your time is more valuable than the toy.
  • You have scolded your child for some reason, don’t buy gifts, take him outdoors, play with him, and slowly tell him your good intentions, worries and reason behind that scolding.
  • Child is hurt, and this might divert his attention. (very personal choice and differ from child to child)

Hope these points are of some use to you. Please mention in comments box if you have any other reason for buying toys, to the kids who already have plenty of toys to play.

Do read the part 2, list of mindset while buying the toys.

Do read Why do we buy toys for our children? Part 3 of 3. (final decision)

A Happy childhood is the most precious gift we can give to our child.

Less toys more development

Development of a child will be more with lesser toys. While most of the space in our child’s almirah is filled with toys, we can become wise parents and learn to limit the number of toys that our kids have to play with.

Toys are not something to just play with. Toys form the building blocks for our child’s future and development. They teach our children about the world and about themselves. They send messages and communicate values. So, intelligent and wise parents think about what foundation is being laid by the toys that are given to their kids. And they want toys that lead to development of the child.

Wise parents also think about the number of toys that children are given. They understand that fewer toys will actually benefit their child’s development in the long-term:

  • Children learn to be more organised. They  live in a cleaner, tidier home. If you have children, you know that toy clutter can quickly take over an entire home. Fewer toys results in a less-cluttered, cleaner, healthier home.
Lesser toys will be more fruitful for the child's development. Having lesser toys, is a better idea to give your child a childhood full of learning. It is not that toys are not important for a child. They are important. But, we don't have to keep giving them a toy in the very first chance we get. Lesser toys will lead to better development of a child.

  • Increase in the creativity of a child. Too many toys prevent kids from fully developing their gift of imagination.  Although boredom set in during the initial stages of the experiment, the children soon began to use their basic surroundings to invent games and use imagination in their playing.
Lesser toys will be more fruitful for the child’s development.
  • Children learn perseverance. Children who have too many toys give up too quickly. If they have a toy that they can’t figure out, it will quickly be discarded for the sake of a different, easier one. Kids with fewer toys learn perseverance, patience, and determination.
Lesser toys will be more fruitful for the child’s development.
  • Children become less selfish. Kids who get everything they want believe they can have everything they want. 

  •  Kids establish better social skills. Children with fewer toys learn how to develop interpersonal relationships with other kids and adults. They learn the give and take of a good conversation. 

  • Children develop a sense of responsibility for their belongings. When kids have too many toys, they will naturally take less care of them. They will not learn to value them if there is always a replacement ready at hand. If you have a child who is constantly damaging their toys, just take a bunch away. He will quickly learn.
Lesser toys will be more fruitful for the child’s development.
  • Children experience more of nature. Children who do not have a basement full of toys are more apt to play outside and develop a deep appreciation for nature. They are also more likely to be involved in physical exercise which results in healthier and happier bodies.

  •  Due to Fewer options to play, kids develop a habit of reading, writing a learning faster than children who have lots of games to occupy their time. Fewer toys allows your children to love books, music, coloring, and painting. And a love for art will help them better appreciate beauty, emotion, and communication in their world.

  • Kids become more resourceful. Fewer toys causes children to become resourceful by solving problems with only the materials at hand. And resourcefulness is a gift with unlimited potential.
Lesser toys will be more fruitful for the child’s development.
  • Kids argue with each other less. This may seem counter-intuitive. Many parents believe that more toys will result in less fighting, because, there are more options available. However, the opposite is true far too often. Siblings argue about toys.

  •  Kids learn to find satisfaction outside of the toy store. True joy and contentment will never be found in the aisles of a toy store. Children need encouragement to live counter-cultural lives finding joy in things that truly last.

  • Increase in the attention span of a child. When too many toys are introduced into a child’s life, their are unable to pay attention to one set of toys. This decreases the attention span to a child. A child will rarely learn to fully appreciate the toy in front of them when there are countless options.

Having lesser toys, is a better idea to give your child a childhood full of learning. It is not that toys are not important for a child. They are important. But, we don’t have to keep giving them a toy in the very first chance we get.

Alternatively, we should limit the number of toys, and give our child a chance to explore things around him.

For more related questions also read:

Do children need a room full of toys? Rethink.

Why toy, games and puzzles are important?

Why do children like to have toys in their life?

मुझे अपने बच्चे को कब खाना परोसना चाहिए?

बच्चों को खाना खिलाना, मां का दिन भर का सबसे बड़ा काम हो सकता है, और सबसे ज्यादा समय लेने वाला भी। इसी बीच जब बच्चे की थाली परोस दी गई है, पर वह नहीं खाता तो, मां, दिन भर उसके खाने की चिंता करती रहती है। ऐसे में एक प्रश्न जो मां के दिमाग में आता है –

मुझे अपने बच्चे को कब खाना परोसना चाहिए?

अक्सर इस प्रश्न के कई तरह के उत्तर मिलते हैं, जो, आस पास के लोग या घर के बड़ों के हम तक पहुंचते हैं।
अक्सर हम पूरे समय बच्चे के पीछे खाना लेकर घूमते रहते हैं। और कई बार हम बच्चे को जबरदस्ती खिलते है।

अब आप ये तरीके भी अपनाकर देखें।

1. पूरे दिन खाने के लिए पीछे भागने के बदले, अपने बच्चे को दिन में 3 बार नाश्ता और 2 बार पूरा भोजन दें। हर दिन लगभग एक ही समय पर भोजन और नाश्ता परोसने का प्रयास करें। भोजन और नाश्ते का एक योजना बद्ध अनुकरण आपके बच्चे में खाने की आदतों को विकसित करने में मदद कर सकती है।

2. आपके बच्चे को आपके मुकाबले खाने में अधिक समय लग सकता है। उन्हें खाने को खत्म करने का समय दें। यदि आपको लगता है कि बच्चे का खाने में मन नहीं लग रहा और वो खाने से खेल कर रहा है, तो उसके सामने के खाना हटा दें, और उसको मेज से उतर कर खेलने छोड़ दें। इस तरह धीरे से बच्चा ये समझ जाएगा कि खेलना और खाना एक साथ नहीं हो सकता।

यदि बच्चे को कोई स्वस्थ से सम्बन्धित दिक्कत नहीं है, और वह रोज खेल कूद कर रहा है तो निश्चित रहें। बच्चे कभी भी भूखे नहीं रहते, वो अपनी आवशयकताओं के अनुसार खा लेते हैं।

बच्चे को दिन भर ना खिलाएं, फिर उससे भूख का अहसास नहीं होता।

बच्चे को कब खाना परोसना चाहिए?

खाना? मुझे अपने बच्चे को कब खाना परोसना चाहिए?

खाना? मुझे अपने बच्चे को कब खाना परोसना चाहिए?बच्चों को खाना खिलाना, मां का दिन भर का सबसे बड़ा काम हो सकता है, और सबसे ज्यादा समय लेने वाला भी। इसी बीच जब बच्चे की थाली परोस दी गई है, पर वह नहीं खाता तो, मां, दिन भर उसके खाने की चिंता करती रहती है। ऐसे में एक प्रश्न जो मां के दिमाग में आता है –

मुझे अपने बच्चे को कब खाना परोसना चाहिए?

अक्सर इस प्रश्न के कई तरह के उत्तर मिलते हैं, जो, आस पास के लोग या घर के बड़ों के हम तक पहुंचते हैं।

अक्सर हम पूरे समय बच्चे के पीछे खाना लेकर घूमते रहते हैं। और कई बार हम बच्चे को जबरदस्ती खिलते है।

मुझे अपने बच्चे को कब खाना परोसना चाहिए?

अब आप ये तरीके भी अपनाकर देखें।

  • पूरे दिन खाने के लिए पीछे भागने के बदले, अपने बच्चे को दिन में 3 बार नाश्ता और 2 बार पूरा भोजन दें। 
  • हर दिन लगभग एक ही समय पर भोजन और नाश्ता परोसने का प्रयास करें। 
  • भोजन और नाश्ते का एक योजना बद्ध अनुकरण आपके बच्चे में खाने की आदतों को विकसित करने में मदद कर सकती है।
  • आपके बच्चे को आपके मुकाबले खाने में अधिक समय लग सकता है।
  •  उन्हें खाने को खत्म करने का समय दें। 
  • यदि आपको लगता है कि बच्चे का खाने में मन नहीं लग रहा और वो खाने से खेल कर रहा है, तो उसके सामने के खाना हटा दें, और उसको मेज से उतर कर खेलने छोड़ दें। 
  • इस तरह धीरे से बच्चा ये समझ जाएगा कि खेलना और खाना एक साथ नहीं हो सकता।
  • यदि बच्चे को कोई स्वस्थ से सम्बन्धित दिक्कत नहीं है, और वह रोज खेल कूद कर रहा है तो निश्चित रहें।
  •  बच्चे कभी भी भूखे नहीं रहते, वो अपनी आवशयकताओं के अनुसार खा लेते हैं।
  • बच्चे को दिन भर ना खिलाएं, इससे उन्हें भूख का अहसास नहीं होता।

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

All the best wishes to you on this amazing journey. This will surely give us easy life.

If these tips help you in finding your answer, please comment. You can also comment, if you are having any other questions related to parenting. 

How much food my child needs?

This is one more question that arises in parent’s mind everyday while serving food

How much food my child needs?

The appetite of young children can change from one day to the next.

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As parents or caregivers, you decide:
• What kind of food we serve to our child
• What time of day are we serving food
• the place where the food will be served

Your child decides:
• among all the food that is serve, which ones are worth eating. And which are not appealing, and can be rejected by saying no or by showing tantrums.
• how much should I eat.

Start feeding your child in small amounts and let them re-ask if needed. Your child will respond according to his need.

Occasionally, your child will starve and eat a lot. And will eat less when not much Hungry. This is normal. If your child is not hungry, do not pressurise or bribe him to eat or to finish the meal.
If you have any questions about your child’s development or hunger, talk to your doctor.

Appetite of your child worrying you?

Appetite of your child? How much food my child needs?

Appetite of child. How much food my child needs? Parents worry everyday when they server children food to their child. it is a constant issue
Appetite of child. How much food my child needs? Parents worry everyday when they server children food to their child. it is a constant issue. Photo by Tiago Pereira on Pexels.com

Appetite of your child makes you worry?

How much food my child needs? This is one more question that arises in parent’s mind everyday when they server them any of the meals. How much food my child needs?This question also pops up when people enquire and compare their child with other children.

How much food my child needs?

Healthy eating habits and stress free childhood is an indicator of healthy parenting, in the world of parenting.

The appetite of young children can change from one day to the next. 

Parent’s mindsets while serving food to their child:

 As parents or caregivers, you decide:

  • What kind of food we serve to our child. : As mother it becomes tough to choose between the healthy food that we want to serve to our children and whatever he eats.
  • What time of day are we serving food. As mothers, we just always look for a chance to feed our children. Feeding children is a full time project for any mother.
  • the place where the food will be served: that is a trick point. For most of the mothers, it is wherever child sits to eat. But honestly, especially in toddlers case, they never sit in one place, long enough to finish their meal.

Your child decides:

  • among all the food that is served, which ones are worth eating. And which are not appealing and can be rejected by showing tantrums.
  • how much should I eat: they also decide how hungry they are and what amount of food is ok for them.

How much food my child needs?

We will get the answer by trying the following ways which will increase your child’s appetite, and make you happy parents.

  • Start feeding your child in small amounts and let them re-ask if needed. Your child will respond according to his need.
  • Occasionally, your child will starve and eat a lot. So, give him the second serving. This way he will not see full plate at a time.
  • He  will eat less when not much Hungry. This is normal. If your child is not hungry, do not pressurize or bribe him to eat or to finish the meal.
  • Do not serve many munching in between, that reduces his craving for food at the time of meal.
  • If your child is active and happy then there is nothing to worry about. A starving child will not be active and happy throughout the day.
  • During the meal time if your child denied eating, please take away the food. Do not ask or pressurized him for eating for another 1-2hours. He will surely eat the next time you offer him.
  • Timely eating will also help in knowing the answer to your question.
  • If you still have any questions about your child’s development or hunger, talk to your doctor.

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

All the best wishes to you on this amazing journey. This will surely give us easy life.

If these tips help you in finding your answer, please comment. You can also comment, if you are having any other questions related to parenting.