Tips for creating nursery which help baby’s brain.

Tips for creating nursery which help baby’s brain.

Tips for creating nursery which help baby's brain.

If you are a parent-to-be then you got a hundred things to plan ahead. With prior appointments with doctors to finishing your work before the due date arrives to packing for hospital to making a perfect baby bag for the first few days when your bundle of joy arrives. With so much to do, some where down the line future-parents also want to welcome their child to the perfect nursery. Different family setups have different ways. Some wants to keep the nursery ready before the baby arrives others, likes to do it when the child is few months old.

Tips for creating nursery that is visually stimulating

# Colorful kids spaces don’t only look great, but can assist in learning and behavior, too.

Color is one of the most noticeable attributes of the world around us. For babies and small children, understanding color is an essential building block they will use for learning in all areas of their life. So when it comes to designing kids’ spaces, color is one of the most important elements to consider.

Can colors in nursery stimulate baby’s brain? And the researches show the answer to be “YES”.

Finding out you’re going to have a little girl or boy is an exciting moment that may send you rushing to the hardware store to select a paint color for the nursery.

Creating Nursery

If you’re like many soon-to-be parents, your baby room fantasies are tinted in shades of light pink or baby blue. But experts say it may not be wise to go color crazy during a baby’s first months.

Tips for creating nursery which help baby's brain.

Best color for the nursery of a newborn could be shades of black and white.

Shades of black and white send the strongest signals to a baby’s brain. This can help stimulate brain growth and aid in visual development.  

When colors can be introduced in nursery

After three months

  • After three months, babies begin to see colors. Try to add some color to your monochrome nursery, to keep a baby’s brain stimulated and growing.
  • You don’t have to change the color of all the walls, just introducing simple art, furniture, toys, and even books can be a means of incorporating color.  

After twelve months

  • When your baby reaches the 12-month milestone, even more colors can be brought in. Colorful cushions, curtains, or wall prints may be helpful as babies grow and learn to differentiate between colors.
  • For adding colors to babies room you don’t have to spend money. Use their toys, accessories and other colorful articles to splash some colors in room.
When colors can be introduced in nursery

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Activity with children during Lock down

Activity with children during Lock down.

As the whole world is following social distancing our kids have to stay home too. And it is bit hard to handle their energy if not channelized properly. Thanks to lots of activities available online, we have lots of options to choose from. Every child is getting exposure to a new mode of learning. Be it their regular classes or hobby classes.

Parents are doing a lot of activities from teaching basic cooking to getting other household skills. We picked up an online workshop on Facebook. Images:

Activity with children. Thanks to lots of activities available online, we have lots of options to choose from. A new mode of learning.  www.happyheartforever.com
Activity with children. Thanks to lots of activities available online, we have lots of options to choose from. A new mode of learning. www.happyheartforever.com
Activity with children. Thanks to lots of activities available online, we have lots of options to choose from. A new mode of learning.  www.happyheartforever.com

Activity with children. Thanks to lots of activities available online, we have lots of options to choose from. A new mode of learning.

Everyday a new activity was the key attraction. I attended along with my kids. They used to wait for Sapna to come Live.
We have made some beautiful memories.

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Activity with children

Life is busy and between work and life responsibilities, the days pass us by in the blink of an eye. Parents have a common concern that they are not able to spend quality time with their children even in the lock down. They wonder if this could lead to developmental delays.

Recent studies have shown that spending quality time is much more important than quantity of time. This is not to negate the importance of time spent with children. Children need high-quality time with parents and caregivers. Quality time spent with the parents and caregiver is most beneficial to children and it leaves a positive effect on them as they grow. It isn’t about endless hours of time but it’s about how you choose to spend that time that truly matters.

As parents and caregivers, we can make choices to ensure time spent with our children is high-quality.

Also read:

How to deal with kids during lock down.

100 Best Guitarists of All Times – Doodle Art

Motivational English Songs

Laugh it out loud in lock down

Activity for Children during Lock down

Activity 01 with children during Lock down.

Activity with children during Lock down

As the whole world is following social distancing our kids have to stay home too. And it is a bit hard to handle their energy if not channelized properly. Thanks to lots of activities available online, we have lots of options to choose from. Every child is getting exposure to a new mode of learning. Be it their regular classes or hobby classes.

Activity  with children during Lock down

Activity with children. Thanks to lots of activities available online, we have lots of options to choose from. A new mode of learning.

We have made some beautiful memories.

Chain pull painting

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Activity with children

Life is busy and between work and life responsibilities, the days pass us by in the blink of an eye. Parents have a common concern that they are not able to spend quality time with their children even in the lock down. They wonder if this could lead to developmental delays.

Recent studies have shown that spending quality time is much more important than quantity of time. This is not to negate the importance of time spent with children. Children need high-quality time with parents and caregivers. Quality time spent with the parents and caregiver is most beneficial to children and it leaves a positive effect on them as they grow. It isn’t about endless hours of time but it’s about how you choose to spend that time that truly matters.

As parents and caregivers, we can make choices to ensure time spent with our children is high-quality.

These series of posts are curated online activities. These series of posts are curated online activities. I find these best and easy to follow from my experience in the educational field.

Also read:

How to deal with kids during lock down.

Top 100 Guitarists Of All Times

Corona Self Isolation #Day 15

Corona Self Isolation #Day 15

Corona Self Isolation #Day 15. I along with my family is on self isolation from 13 March 2020, due to the spread of Corona Virus in the nation. This pandemic is taking a troll over everyone’s life.Many families like us have gone to self isolation from mid March. It is a tough task for every one especially parents to keep their children at home.

In Indian School system, Feb end or March is the time when schools conclude their sessions. It is time for students to enjoy post examinations. It is also time for families to go on vacations meet their relatives.

Kids are at home, parents are working for home (if they are into such profession) and for others, they are just sitting at home with their business closed. It is a bit difficult to keep these young minds busy all day long, even if you have made a fool proof plan. We need some stress buster. No denial.

We were afraid but alert at the same time. It was on tuesday 24/03/2020, 20:00 hours,

Addressing the nation for the second time this week, Prime Minister Narendra Modi on Tuesday announced a 21-day lock down beginning March 25 at 0000 hours PM Modi Announced 21 days lock down beginning 25 march at 0000 hrs.

Now we have to keep ourselves positive and happy in every possible way to pass these 21 days period successfully. We have to stay positive, happy, healthy and productive. We have to behave well as citizens by obeying laws, as good children to elders in family, as understanding and loving parents to our children and as good employees to the company by working form home.

Playing all these rolls are very exhaustive. We need to give some time to ourselves also.

Self Isolation during Corona Virus threat. Trying to stay positive gave me. Compilation of all the funny messages, memes, videos etc.

This thought of trying to stay positive gave me the push to compile all the funny messages, memes, videos etc. that are like a good dose of laughter. Hope you like them too.

Because some of them are forwards, I am not sure about the source. I will try to credit the source as much as possible, still if you find some corrections to be done, feel free to mention, and I will surely make the changes.

In an effort to making a parent happy and positive.

Please comment if you feel fresh after this.

Picture source

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Motivational English Songs

Motivational English Songs. There are times when we run out of motivation. and this happens with everyone. we are drained out of motivation when we find things around us are not happening as per our plans. Perhaps the most powerful thing we can do is to listen to inspirational songs.

For this reason, here is the list of a hand-picked selection of the most inspirational songs of all time that will re-energize you.

Music is an amazing thing. The songs you listen to can change the way you see the world.

Motivational English songs music. Music is an amazing thing. The songs you listen to can change the way you see the world.
Motivational English songs music. Music is an amazing thing. The songs you listen to can change the way you see the world.

Please share your favorite motivational song in the comment box.

Motivational English Songs

1. Stronger (What Doesn’t Kill You) – Kelly Clarkson

Stronger (What Doesn’t Kill You) – Kelly Clarkson “What doesn’t kill you makes a fighter”.  This song, performed by the American Idol Season 1 winner helps you to evaluate your life when something hasn’t gone your way. Learn from it and come back fighting so that you can reach the next level.

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2. Don’t Stop Believin’ by Journey

The song makes use of a powerful metaphor to highlight how each and every one of us seeks to fill the void within. It’s a powerful song that fits perfectly for those who are afraid of being lonely. Even more so, its inspirational message (“don’t stop believing”) will definitely encourage you to keep looking forward to a better future.

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3. Right Here, Right Now by Fatboy Slim

The only thing that is not inspiring about this song is its lyrics. “Right Here, Right Now” conveys its inspiring message in a more subtle manner.

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4. Gonna Fly Now by Bill Conti (Rocky Theme)

Bill Conti’s song condenses what the Rocky movies are all about: pushing yourself to the limit and always getting back up on your feet when life knocks you down.

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5. Not Afraid by Eminem

What is Eminem’s song all about? It’s about having the courage to face your inner demons. “Not Afraid” deals with the difficulty of overcoming the past and creating a better future. The song will motivate you to courageously face your fears so that you can overcome what is holding you back.

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6. Ain’t No Mountain High Enough – Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell

“Don’t you know that there ain’t no mountain high enough. Ain’t no valley low enough, ain’t no river wide enough. To keep me from getting to you, baby”. Whatever your baby may be, it’s your goal. There may be obstacles on the way, but you can overcome them to reach that goal.

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7. Titanium by David Guetta

This song is powerful. It really is. Its lyrics are brilliantly inspiring and will motivate you to face the severest difficulties with great courage. The song is all about taking one blow after another without losing your dreams out of sight. It encourages you to be resilient when life and other people beat you down. Listen closely and you too will be bulletproof like titanium.

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8. Girl on Fire by Alicia Keys

Do you know that time in your life when you were incredibly excited about pursuing a dream of yours? This was the time when you were truly on fire. Of course, the song addresses the importance of having an inner fire that fuels all your endeavors in life. Once you’re on fire, once you really burn to see a vision of yours implemented on this planet, you will be willing to do everything it takes to realize your dreams.

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9. Levels by Avicii

Simply listening to this wonderful tune is the greatest joy. Its chorus is so joyful and heartwarming that you want to hear this beautiful song over and over again.

Motivational English Songs

10. Can’t Hold Us by Macklemore & Ryan Lewis

If you have the courage to dream big, nothing will stop you.

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11. Save the World – Swedish House Mafia

“Who’s gonna save the world tonight? Who’s gonna bring you back to life?”. It’s down to you, motivate yourself to do what it takes to bring some activity back.

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12. Skyscraper – Demi Lovato

“Go on and try to tear me down. I will be rising from the ground”. If you are seeing obstacles blocking you, you can circumvent them and build back up. Life has it’s ups and downs and it’s up to you to build strong foundations so that you can continually build your own skyscrapers.

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13. In the End by Linkin Park

“In the End” is about the painful realization that you’ve invested much time into something that simply wasn’t worth it. Realizing that it all didn’t matter in the end can be quite painful. At the same time, it marks the important point where an illusion has been shattered so that you can finally see things as they really are.

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14. Get up Stand up – Bob Marley

“Get up, stand up: don’t give up the fight!”. It’s not over yet.

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15. Dream on by Aerosmith

Steven Tyler wrote “Dream on” to encourage his band mates to keep dreaming of a better future. It’s a remarkably beautiful song reminding you to enjoy the beauty of the moment and to make the most of your life.

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16. What a Wonderful World by Louis Armstrong

Louis Armstrong wrote this masterpiece during exceptionally difficult times where people were highly afraid of the outbreak of a nuclear war. The message of the song is simple but beautiful: despite everything bad that happens, there is still much beauty to be found in this world. “What a Wonderful World” encourages you to never lose hope of a better future, no matter how bad things seem to be at the moment.

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17. Somewhere over the Rainbow by Israel Kamakawiwo’ole

“Somewhere over the Rainbow” is an all-time favorite of millions. The inspiring song will cheer you up when you’re going through a difficult time. It will encourage you to keep going despite the circumstances.

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The inspiring message of this song could be understood as an encouragement for each and every one of us to participate in the creation of this better place. If we all work together, this world can be transformed into the most beautiful place so that no one has to go over the rainbow to find a truly magical place.

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18. You’re Beautiful – James Blunt

“But we shared a moment that will last ’til the end.”.  When those moments happen, treasure them and remember them. You may need it one day to keep you going.

19. It’s My Life – Bon Jovi

It’s my life. And it’s now or never”. We only have one life, why procrastinate on the things that matter?

20. Beautiful – Christina Aguilera

“You’re beautiful. No matter what they say”. There’s something beautiful for someone in almost everything. Don’t focus on the negatives, focus on the positives.

21. Tubthumping – Chumbawumba

“I get knocked down, But I get up again, You’re never going to keep me down”. Persistence is important, take those setbacks into your stride. You’ve probably heard this inspirational song on countless sports shows. That’s how effective it is.

22. Where is the Love? – Black Eyed Peas

“Take control of your mind and meditate”.  Focus on your objective, don’t waste your energy on the things you can’t control.

23. We Are the Champions by Queen

Everyone knows this classic but what is it really all about? Personally, I think the song is about overcoming difficulties and the wonderful feeling you get once you realize that you’ve been victorious in your attempts. It’s about struggling hard and emerging as a champion from the battleground.

24. The Middle by Jimmy Eat World

“The Middle” has not only a catchy tune but also comes with an inspiring message. It’s about being unique and having the confidence to stand out from the rest. The fantastic song celebrates the courage to be different and tells you that you shouldn’t care too much about other people’s opinion.

25. Don’t Give up by Peter Gabriel

As the title of this inspiring song indicates, “Don’t Give up” is all about finding the necessary courage it takes to keep fighting for your dreams. It’s about overcoming difficulties so that you can finally succeed at whatever it is you are doing.

26. You Gotta Be – Des Ree

“Listen as your day unfolds. Challenge what the future holds”. Set your goals for the day and accomplish that challenge

29. Walking on Sunshine – Katrina and the Waves

This is just a great feel-good song.

30. Harder, Better, Faster – Daft Punk

“Work it harder, make it better, do it faster, makes us stronger;”. Working smart increases your output. Focus on doing it smart.

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31. Human – The Killers

“Close your eyes. Clear your heart”. We’re all human, sometimes we need to take a bit of time to reset so that we can move on.

32. Lust For Life – Iggy Pop

“I’m worth a million in prizes”. Whatever motivates you, find that vigor that makes you feel like a million dollars.

33. Remember the Name – Fort Minor

“This is ten percent luck, twenty percent skill, Fifteen percent concentrated power of will ,Five percent pleasure, fifty percent pain”.  Focus and work hard, it’s not going to be plain sailing, but if you want to reach your destination, you need determination.

34. What a Feeling – Irene Cara

“first, when there’s nothing but a slow glowing dream”. All your goals start from somewhere. Keep your eye on the goal.

35. Imagine – John Lennon

“You, you may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one”. Figure out what your dream is and strive for it.

36. Perfect Day – Lou Reed

“Just a perfect day, problems all left alone”. Take a break from your problems and take some time to enjoy yourself.

37. Teardrop – Massive Attack

“Most faithful mirror. Fearless on my breath”. Take a look at yourself and see if you’re heading in the direction you want. Make course corrections without fear.

38. Don’t Worry be Happy – Bobby McFerrin

“In every life we have some troubleBut when you worry, you make it double”. Bobby McFerrin’s inspirational 80’s song reminds us that everyone is worried about something, and we need to take time out to have some happy time.

39. Always Look on the Bright Side of Life – Monty Python

“If life seems jolly rotten, There’s something you’ve forgotten!”. Focus on the positives.

40. Here Comes the Sun – The Beatles

“Little darling, I feel that ice is slowly melting”. Even if progress is slow, progress is still being made.

41. Beautiful Day – U2

“It’s a beautiful day. Don’t let it get away”. Celebrate your victories and achievements, no matter how small.

42. Lovely Day – Bill Withers

“When the day that lies ahead of me. Seems impossible to face”. Life sometimes seems impossible, but there is always a way, you just haven’t though of it yet.

43. Stand By Me ~ Ben E. King

“No I won’t be afraid. Oh I won’t be afraid”. That challenge may seem daunting, but don’t be afraid it. We have to overcome our fears and comfort zones to progress.

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Feel free to share the song of your life in the comments section below.

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Happy Morning Habits

Morning habits that can make your day more productive.

Morning can be the best time to make your day happier.

Image : Photo by Daria Obymaha from Pexels

Morning routine has the capacity to decide how productive we will be throughout the day. Our morning planning and routine can make or break our day. With the day all packed with work, office or family, mornings can be the best time to spend with ourselves. Getting up early can be a good idea if you want to spend time in organizing your day. 

Everyone will have a different ideal morning routine, but let’s discuss some of the things that you might like to add to your morning routine.

  •  Getting up a little earlier than all your family members will give you some extra time for yourself.
  • Drink some water: drink some water as soon as you get up. This will help hydrate your body after a good night sleep. 
  • Make your bed – this is something we all have been asked to do as a child. But this really helps. Making your bed first thing in the morning can put you in the line with putting your first task done. It will make your space less cluttered first thing in the morning. A well made bed will also welcome you back in the evening when you come back tired after a day full of work. 

Fit Habits

  • It is a great time to go for a walk or a brief run to kick start your day. This will also give you a feel good emotion from the morning itself. 
  • Keep your phone away: this could be difficult to do in the beginning but staying away from your phone in the early hours is the best thing you can do to keep your mind away from the social flood of stimulation and information in your mind. It’s better for our bodies and our reactive emotional systems to reduce how long we’re feeling stress in a day. Plus, reaching for your phone first thing is a quick way to derail your whole morning routine. All of us have stayed in bed some time or other while watching Facebook, Instagram or twitter. 
  • It is a good idea to stretch your body. If you are not an exercise person, use this extra hour to start a healthy habit.

Relaxing Habits

9 Small Morning Habits That Will Make Your Whole Day So Much Better  Landon Phillips  Jan 15th
  • All the writers can make their best compositions in the morning.  
  • Pamper yourself: pamper yourself, do all the beauty treatments you want to do to yourself, and never get time. Establish a good skin routine for yourself in the morning.
  • Sit and have a nice cup of tea or coffee all for yourself. Spend some time for yourself. Read the newspaper, your favorite book or article. 

Healthy Habits

  • Play with your pet, dance, sing, do zumba, do gardening, water your plants, make some craft, paint or do whatever you enjoy doing.
  •  Make to-do list: write or review your to-do list. By doing this you will be ahead of making decisions based on your mood. For more focused and productive day, it is beneficial to plan your day in the morning.

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Deliberate Disobedience: How to handle a Toddler

Disobedience – How to handle a Toddler who is showing Deliberate Disobedience?

Do you often get frustrated when your child doesn’t listen to you on purpose? This happens to most of the parents at home or at social gatherings when toddlers do not stay disciplined even after being told or reminded several times. 

The room was full of toys, all scattered. I was surprised by this as this was not the usual habit of my toddler. I asked her to put things in their respective places. This went unheard. She was still playing with some toys in a different room.

Here are some tips which commonly work and are helpful when toddlers are acting deliberately disobedient.
Some tips which commonly work and are helpful when toddlers are acting deliberately disobedient. 

“It’s time to put the toys away,” I tried again, my patience waning. “That means you have to stop and put those cars back in the box.”

I raised my tone of voice a little with a hope that it would lend some weight to it’s importance, but instead she stayed rooted in her place, playing with the cars. Not only that, a smile spread through her face, as if the whole thing was part of a big joke.

How to discipline your child at different ages?

Even for the most patient mom, dealing with a toddler who is not listening to what is being asked to him to do is challenging. This is the point when you get the kind of anger, which you never knew you possess. And this is the time when you want to do anything to make your child listen to you. Things get hotter in your brain when no matter how angry you get or the threats you make, nothing seems to get him to cooperate.

Then a realization strikes and you feel terrible about how petty the initial “argument” had been: talking past his bedtime, not cleaning his mess after reminders, not coming to room when you asked him to. 

Deliberate Disobedience:How to handle a Toddler? Disciplining a toddler who doesn’t listen

When after nagging, repeating and losing your temper, you are still not able to discipline your child. You need to change something in the approach.

Most people punish their children at this point, to control their behaviour or follow a time out method as an alternative.

There are some other ways that can be adapted to discipline your child, which will change both your and your toddler’s behaviour.I then learned an important lesson in what discipline really means that changed my whole outlook and my toddler’s behavior.

Discipline is actually something different from punishments and time outs. Discipline is teaching. We’re teaching children how to behave and helping them understand and express their emotions.

“Do not train a child to learn by force or harshness; but direct them to it by what amuses their minds, so that you may be better able to discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of the genius of each.”

― Plato

Here are some tips which commonly work and are helpful when toddlers are acting deliberately disobedient. 

Deliberate Disobedience:How to handle a Toddler?

1. Make an eye contact: you need to get down to your toddler’s level 

It is always good to look at the situation from your toddler’s point of view, and I mean it literally. The simplest way to better communicate with children is to get down to their eye level when we speak to them. Three benefits of doing this are:

  • Chances of your being taken seriously increases.  Children of this age take everything as a part of play or fun. Your getting down to his level will most likely convey to your child that you’re trying to be serious with your child. Get down to his level so you’re making eye contact and phrase your instructions in a calm but firm tone.
  • You’re being more respectful. When we’re speaking to them from high above children feel “talked down to”. Kneeling to your toddler’s level forces you to speak and address his needs more respectfully.
  • You avoid power struggles. Eye to eye contact makes your toddler feel heard. He gets less defensive and more likely to oblige. Try this and you’ll see his body relax as he becomes more willing to comply.

Point to remember: Kneeling down to your child’s level will help him take you seriously and feel respected.

Deliberate Disobedience:How to handle a Toddler?

2. Find out about his side of the story,find your toddler’s intentions for such behavior. 

Defiance seems to be everywhere. And it surfaces when your child refuses to come to the table to eat. Or when he refuses to stop jumping in the sand pit  (especially after you’ve asked him not to do many times before).

Kids usually don’t misbehave to make us angry. Find your toddler’s intentions and you might see your child was trying to arrange a puzzle right when you asked him to come to the table to eat. Jumping on the sandpit was not to show rebellion, but it was the excitement which he was unaware or unable to contain.

Point to remember: Pause before reacting to your child’s behavior. Be curious to know about why he’s behaving the way he is. Doing so will make him feel that you are on his side and you are ready to listen to his view. 

Always try to acknowledge and show empathy with how your child feels and why he’s not listening before laying out consequences.

Maybe he is feeling tired from a long day and needs your company but unaware of his feelings. Looking for the reason behind your child’s action will make him feel understood, not attacked or scolded.

Deliberate Disobedience:How to handle a Toddler?

3. Keeping your word: give and follow through with consequences

“You behave properly or else [fill in the blank]?” 

Have you ever said so? And then didn’t follow through that [fill in the blank]. False threats are ineffective and rarely implemented

Consequences that tie to your toddler’s behavior are learning experiences, as  long as you follow through. Not following through the consequences establishes limits that your child needs.

Point to remember: Keeping your word strengthens the trust your toddler places on you. While you may not win short-term favor, you’re gaining your child’s trust when you follow through consistently. Otherwise, your child learns they can continue to misbehave because the consequences will never be happening. 

Deliberate Disobedience:How to handle a Toddler?

4. Wisely pick the important things to focus on. 

There are times when parents just watch their children like a hawk and point at every little thing that is not as per expectation. Spending time correcting your child is draining and that too when every interaction leads to fight. 

Sometimes we need to choose our battles wisely and decide which behavior is critical to correct, and which ones aren’t as important. 

There is no set pattern for perfect behaviour. While best behaviour is desired, allow some room for the nuances of life.

Ask and evaluate if what you’re arguing about truly matters, especially in the long run. 

Point to remember:  When you’re willing to pick your battles and keep your tone lighthearted and you stay calm instead of being bossy and mean, your toddler will be less likely to drag his misbehavior and sour mood even further.

Deliberate Disobedience:How to handle a Toddler?

5. Encourage your toddler to listen by giving your toddler a choice

Offering choices can curb a potential meltdown and encourage your toddler to listen. 

Offering choices leads to self satisfaction as otherwise toddlers are always under the rule of adult decisions. This also allows him to voice his decisions. Children feel that we care for them and respect their decisions. This develops critical thinking skills. He will stay responsible for the consequences of his decisions. 

Sometimes offering choices can backfire. So put the choices wisely. Don’t always give choice, limit this option. 

Point to remember: Always stay alert to offer a choice between two parent-approved options, either of which you’d be okay with.

If you are going to market, and your child is unwilling to get ready, give choices like, “which dress you want to wear to the market?” Don’t say, “Do you want to go to the market or stay here at home?” especially if you don’t plan to have him stay.

Deliberate Disobedience:How to handle a Toddler?

6. Explain why they should, what you want them to do.

children are more motivated to comply knowing why they should follow the rules, and what are the consequences when not.

Next time say  “Don’t play with the knife or you might hurt yourself.”

Point to remember: Knowing a reason takes the parent out of the equation and focuses on the task that needs to be done. Children will understand the reason for your concern.

Deliberate Disobedience:How to handle a Toddler?

7. Praise your toddler when he follows the rules 

Point out and praise the good behaviour done by the child. Children thrive on attention. Attention could be of any nature good or bad. 

Love, praise, cuddling, playing or working on an activity are good attention, arguments, yelling, and scolding are types of bad attention. They take both as attention.

Parents are expected to judge the nature of the attention. 

The best way to counter misbehavior is to praise your toddler and give him attention when he is behaving.

Point to remember:  Basically kids want to please their parents. They want our approval and are crushed when we’re disappointed or angry with them. Use that to your advantage and praise your toddler when he behaves well.

Deliberate Disobedience:How to handle a Toddler?

8. Have some weight in you instruction

There are times when parents give the instruction but follow it halfway, this is when the whole effort shreds away. 

When you have asked them to come to bed, don’t let them keep playing for a long time. Your instructions could be crisp and clear. It is time for bed, let’s sleep. 

Point to remember:Avoid negotiation when you can’t.

Deliberate Disobedience:How to handle a Toddler?

9. Use positive language

Use positive language when you speak to your kids. This means phrasing your words in something your child can do, not something he can’t. 

Point to remember: Kids respond better to positive language because no one likes being told what not to do.

Deliberate Disobedience:How to handle a Toddler?

10. Talking will work only after the tantrum storm is over. 

Children don’t listen when they are in a tarturm. Talking will not work. 

Allow the tantrum to subside, stay there for your child, give a hug and allow your child to settle down. 

Point to remember: Once she’s calm, only then can you talk with the expectation of being heard.

Deliberate Disobedience:How to handle a Toddler?

11. Attend them

Listen to your children. Listen to what they have to stay. Their stories might not make sense, still try not to give the empty “ hmm hmm hmmm” response.

discipline without physical punishment

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

How To Discipline Your Child

It is important to stick to some form of discipline consistently for your child. Parents also need to stick to those rules and consequences, if they don’t, their kids aren’t likely to either.

How To Discipline Your Child At Different Ages.  It is important to stick to some form of discipline consistently for your child. Parents also need to stick to those rules and consequences.
How To Discipline Your Child At Different Ages. It is important to stick to some form of consistently for your child. Parents also need to stick to those rules and consequences.

You will find some ideas about how to vary your approach to discipline your child to best fit your family.

From ages 0 to 2 yrs

Ages 3 to 5 yrs

From ages 6 to 8 yrs

Ages 9 to 12 yrs

From ages 13 and Up

Discipline Without Physical Punishment One is not permitted to hit one’s spouse or a stranger. Why in the world should one be permitted to hit a smaller and even more vulnerable child?  Studies show that children who are hit identify with the aggressor and are more likely to become hitters themselves, i.e., bullies and future abusers of their children and spouses. They tend to learn to use violent behavior as a way to deal with disputes.   

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

Happy Parenting! All the best wishes to you on this amazing journey.

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Discipline – 13 yrs and above Child

How To Discipline Your Child

It is important to stick to some form of discipline consistently for your child. Parents also need to stick to those rules and consequences, if they don’t, their kids aren’t likely to either.

Discipline Your 13 yrs and above Child.  You will find some ideas about how to vary your approach to discipline your child to best fit your family.
Discipline Your 13 yrs and above Child. You will find some ideas about how to vary your approach to discipline your child to best fit your family.

You will find some ideas about how to vary your approach to discipline your child to best fit your family.

From ages 0 to 2 yrs

Ages 3 to 5 yrs

From ages 6 to 8

Ages 9 to 12 yrs

From ages 13 and Up

Become friends with your child. At this age forcing rules will not work. Talk to your child about natural consequences of their behaviour. By now you’ve laid the groundwork. Your child knows what’s expected and that you mean what you say about the penalties for bad behavior. 

What can be done:

  • Discipline is just as important for teens as it is for younger kids. But the approach needs to be changed. Just as with;the 3-year-old who needs you to set a bedtime and enforce it, your teen needs boundaries, too.
  • Sit and Set rules. Set up rules regarding homework, visits by friends, curfews, and dating. Discuss the rules beforehand with your teenager so there will be no misunderstandings. Your teen will probably complain from time to time, but also will realize that you’re in control. It might sound hard but teens still want and need you to set limits and enforce order in their lives, even as you grant them greater freedom and responsibility.
  • Privileges are privileges. When your teen does break a rule, taking away privileges may seem the best plan of action. For example, while it’s fine to take away the car for a week,it is also important to tell them why it was done. 
  • Be sure to discuss why coming home an hour past curfew is unacceptable and worrisome.
  • Don’t control your child through and through. Remember to give a teenager some control over things. Not only will this limit the number of power struggles you have, it will help your teen respect the decisions that you do need to make. For example, allow your younger teen to make decisions concerning clothes, hair styles, or even the condition of his or her room. As your teen gets older, that realm of control might be extended to include an occasional relaxed curfew.
  • Have your teen earn a later curfew by demonstrating positive behavior instead of setting an earlier curfew as punishment for irresponsible behavior.

Rule you should remember: 

It’s important to focus on the positives. Include your child in discussions in the family and allow them to put their views. 

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

Happy Parenting! All the best wishes to you on this amazing journey.

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Discipline – 9 to 12 yrs Old Child

How To Discipline Your Child

It is important to stick to some form of discipline consistently for your child. Parents also need to stick to those rules and consequences, if they don’t, their kids aren’t likely to either.

Discipline Your 9 to 12 yrs Old Child.  You will find some ideas about how to vary your approach to discipline your child to best fit your family.
Discipline Your 9 to 12 yrs Old Child. You will find some ideas about how to vary your approach to discipline your child to best fit your family.

You will find some ideas about how to vary your approach to discipline your child to best fit your family.

From ages 0 to 2 yrs

Ages 3 to 5 yrs

From ages 6 to 8 yrs

Ages 9 to 12 yrs

Just as with all ages, kids in this age group mature and request more independence and responsibility.They can be disciplined with natural consequences. 

What can be done:

  • Life Lessons are more valuable. Teaching them how to deal with the consequences of their behavior is an effective and appropriate method of discipline. For example, if your fifth grader’s homework isn’t done before bedtime, should you make him or her stay up to do it or even lend a hand yourself? Probably not — you’ll miss an opportunity to teach a key life lesson. If homework is incomplete, your child will go to school the next day without it and suffer the resulting bad grade. Don’t worry, some bad grades are OK, if they are giving life lessons to your child.
  • Mistakes do favor your child. It’s natural for parents to want to rescue kids from mistakes. Let your child make some mistakes and learn from them. Kids see what behaving improperly can mean and probably won’t make those mistakes again. 
  • Take away privileges. If your child does not seem to be learning from natural consequences, set up some of your own to help change the behavior. Removing privileges such as electronics can be an effective consequence for this age group.

Rule you should remember: 

Become friends with your child. At this age forcing rules will not work. Talk to your child about natural consequences of their behaviour. 

From ages 13 and Up

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

Happy Parenting! All the best wishes to you on this amazing journey.

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