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Discipline – 13 yrs and above Child

by happyheartforeverBehavioral and Discipline IssuesLeave a Comment on Discipline – 13 yrs and above Child

How To Discipline Your Child

It is important to stick to some form of discipline consistently for your child. Parents also need to stick to those rules and consequences, if they don’t, their kids aren’t likely to either.

Discipline Your 13 yrs and above Child. You will find some ideas about how to vary your approach to discipline your child to best fit your family.
Discipline Your 13 yrs and above Child. You will find some ideas about how to vary your approach to discipline your child to best fit your family.

You will find some ideas about how to vary your approach to discipline your child to best fit your family.

From ages 0 to 2 yrs

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From ages 6 to 8

Ages 9 to 12 yrs

From ages 13 and Up

Become friends with your child. At this age forcing rules will not work. Talk to your child about natural consequences of their behaviour. By now you’ve laid the groundwork. Your child knows what’s expected and that you mean what you say about the penalties for bad behavior. 

What can be done:

  • Discipline is just as important for teens as it is for younger kids. But the approach needs to be changed. Just as with;the 3-year-old who needs you to set a bedtime and enforce it, your teen needs boundaries, too.
  • Sit and Set rules. Set up rules regarding homework, visits by friends, curfews, and dating. Discuss the rules beforehand with your teenager so there will be no misunderstandings. Your teen will probably complain from time to time, but also will realize that you’re in control. It might sound hard but teens still want and need you to set limits and enforce order in their lives, even as you grant them greater freedom and responsibility.
  • Privileges are privileges. When your teen does break a rule, taking away privileges may seem the best plan of action. For example, while it’s fine to take away the car for a week,it is also important to tell them why it was done. 
  • Be sure to discuss why coming home an hour past curfew is unacceptable and worrisome.
  • Don’t control your child through and through. Remember to give a teenager some control over things. Not only will this limit the number of power struggles you have, it will help your teen respect the decisions that you do need to make. For example, allow your younger teen to make decisions concerning clothes, hair styles, or even the condition of his or her room. As your teen gets older, that realm of control might be extended to include an occasional relaxed curfew.
  • Have your teen earn a later curfew by demonstrating positive behavior instead of setting an earlier curfew as punishment for irresponsible behavior.

Rule you should remember: 

It’s important to focus on the positives. Include your child in discussions in the family and allow them to put their views. 

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

Happy Parenting! All the best wishes to you on this amazing journey.

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5 ways child will stop biting.

by happyheartforeverBehavioral and Discipline Issues / Toddlers1 Comment on 5 ways child will stop biting.

5 ways child will stop biting/ biting problem in children

When your child bites, you feel bad for the way your child is behaving and also for the victim who nurses a throbbing red mark. You want your child to stop biting. Other parents are appalled. You wish you could just sink into the ground. For your child’s age, this could be the most antisocial work. Understanding why a child bites is key to beating the problem. Not all children bite out of anger or to hurt another child – in fact kids can’t really understand how much pain they’re causing.

5 ways child will stop biting. this article will tell you about 5 ways the child will stop biting habit.
5 ways child will stop biting.
this article will tell you about 5 ways the child will stop biting habit. As a parent, to stop biting habit of your child, you just need to understand the causes behind this. Just handle the situation calming next time. 5 ways to stop child from biting.
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As a parent, to stop biting habit of your child, you just need to understand the causes behind this. Just handle the situation calming next time. 

Read 5 Reasons Why do children bite?

In all instances, react swiftly, and keep your cool. Don’t ever – ever – bite back or hit – retaliation could be dangerous. “You’re just teaching them violence causes violence,” But don’t dodge the issue – children need to know immediately that what they have done is wrong.

Here are the 5 ways to stop child from biting:

1️⃣Intervene:

 You need to be observant, look how intense, how frequent the bites are and what are the targets. 

  • One of the best ways is to act before your child has a chance to sink their teeth into anyone. Parents might be slow at doing this, but it is always one of the best ways. 
  • Separate your child away from the person they’re about to bite. 
  • Don’t put them into large groups if that’s where it happens. Plan in advance for their behaviour.
  • Children often clench their teeth before they bite – an unmistakable sign. React swiftly.
  • Take the child somewhere quiet to calm down.
  • If a teething child is trying out his or her teeth, find toys to chew and chomp on.      

 2️⃣Teach them it’s wrong:

  • When your child bites, use simple but firm words. 
  • Try, “that’s biting, that’s wrong” or a firm “no”.
  • If you’re in a group, remove them from the situation. 
  • Explain that it hurts others and why you don’t like kids biting.

3️⃣Teach them to express themselves: 

When things have calmed down, try to help your child find a less painful way to express their feelings.

  •  If a child is biting to show his affection, there are chances he might not do this again.
  • *If your child’s expressing love, teach them to hug rather than bite whenever they feel strong emotions.
  • If your child bites out of defence, show them how to tell somebody they don’t want him or her too close. Teach them to make the “stop” sign (a hand held up) or ask them even gently to push the other child’s shoulder which won’t hurt but gives a clear message.
  • Teach them to come and find you instead if they’re angry.

4️⃣Reduce the effectiveness:

When children bite to gain attention, dealing with it is trickier. 

  • After the first big  incidence, don’t try to reason or explain.Give a firm “no”. 
  • Put your body between victim and biter and turn your back on the biter.
  • Give the victim sympathy and the biter a clear message this is an unproductive way of getting attention.

5️⃣If time-out is one of your methods:

*If time-out is one of your methods, now’s the time to use it.

  • *If the bite was over a toy or treat, remove it for a short while.
  • If a child tries to control his or her mum by biting, try physically putting a part of their body in the way as they go to bite – an arm or a leg, which will stop them in their tracks.

Now as you have read till here, this is an extra tip, which works wonders –

“ Praise them for good behavior”: Praise them for good behavior and see how the problem fades away. Beware, don’t over do it. 

When to ask for help: Don’t rush to a therapist; seek help or advice from friends and other parents, or teachers. This is very unlikely that you will fail after this, but if you do, then surely visit a therapist.

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

All the best wishes to you on this amazing journey. This will surely give us an easy life.

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5 reasons why your Child BITES

by happyheartforeverBehavioral and Discipline Issues1 Comment on 5 reasons why your Child BITES

5 reasons why your Child BITES / biting habit in children

When your child bites, you feel bad for the way your child is behaving and also for the victim who nurses a throbbing red mark. Other parents are appalled. You wish you could just sink into the ground. For your child’s age, this could be the most antisocial work. When your child bites, you feel bad for the way your child is behaving and also for the victim who nurses a throbbing red mark. When your child bites, you feel bad for the way your child is behaving and also for the victim who nurses a throbbing red mark. Other parents are appalled. You wish you could just sink into the ground. For your child’s age, this could be the most antisocial work.

If a child bites an apple it's OK, but biting others is not. Find about 5 reasons why your child bites.
If a child bites an apple it’s GOOD, but not when he bites someone else. Find about 5 reasons why your child bites. Photo by Saya Kimura from Pexels

Not all kids bite, but experts say up every 4th child will do at some stage – mostly between the ages of 2 & 3. It is a phase that passes by 4 yrs, most children have grown out of it. Some try the odd bite and move on, others grow into REGULAR biters.

And when we are talking about regular biters, it’s a serious issue. It hurts to see the victim in so much pain. This could also get your child kicked out of nursery. It doesn’t mean your child is a monster – many biters are otherwise gentle and sociable.

5 Reasons Why do children bite?

Understanding why a child bites is key to beating the problem. Not all children bite out of anger or to hurt another child – in fact kids can’t really understand how much pain they’re causing. “Question yourself what the child is gaining by biting,”

“Think what the reward is for him or her – does he get a huge amount of attention?”

Experts advise parents to try and see biting as a way of communicating rather than just bad behaviour – once we do that, we’ve got more choices in how to respond.

5 Reasons Why do children bite?

  1. Expressing emotion: Oddly enough, young toddlers can bite as a way of showing love. “Toddlers have really intense feelings but don’t know how to show them, “Biting can be a way of expressing their feelings. Mothers often don’t understand why it’s just them who get bitten.”
  2. Experimenting: Toddlers are learning how their body works – they put things in their mouths, and sometimes bite.  It’s impulsive and they don’t mean to hurt. Often, a baby bites someone when they’re teething. Sometimes toddlers bite when they’re over-excited.
  3. Defending: Young children learn to bite as a defence, especially if they can’t talk. Sometimes when children are late at learning to speak, they use biting as their defence. They bite whenever they are anxious or feeling threatened. These children are trying to establish a safety zone. Sometimes changes or upsets at home can bring on this type of biting. 
  4. Controlling: Some children know biting as a method of getting to do what they want from the other children or their parents. They don’t always do this consciously. It may happen when a group of children are jostling to be leader. Sometimes the youngest child in the family bites to gain power. Those who have done this, knows biting is a fantastic way of getting attention, even if it’s negative, still purpose solved.
  5. Frustrated or irritated: Your child wants a toy back. Or they want a biscuit or adult attention, or can’t cope with a situation. They may not understand turn-taking and sharing. Or things may have changed at home or the child feels under stress. Your child doesn’t necessarily mean to cause harm, but just can’t find the words to express themselves.

As a parent, you just need to understand the causes behind this biting habit. Just handle the situation calmly next time. Comfort your child. 

Read 5 ways to stop child from biting. 

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

All the best wishes to you on this amazing journey. This will surely give us an easy life.

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Is Playschool Education Necessary?

by happyheartforeverPreschool / School / Toddlers2 Comments on Is Playschool Education Necessary?
Should you send your child to a playschool? Here's what you should consider before making the decision.
Is Playschool Education Necessary?

Should you send your child to a playschool? Here’s what you should consider before making the decision.


A few decades ago, the concept of playschools in India was unheard of, and few children, if any, attended playschool. Still, everyone grew up into mature, sensible, well read and well-spoken adults. Now however it seems as if every parent sends their pre-nursery child off to a playschool.

Most playschools in India are privately owned, and expensive. If you are wondering whether to send your child to a playschool or not, here’s what you should consider before making a decision.

Time

Do you have a lot of time that you can devote to your child?

If both you and your spouse are working and you don’t have a lot of spare time, you may not be around to teach your child much – with the result that when your child starts school he may lag behind his classmates who have attended playschool. However, if one spouse is a stay-at-home parent and has the time to attend to the children and teach them, you could consider not sending your child to a playschool. Remember that very young children too have an incredible ability to learn. Their brains are remarkably sharp, and it makes sense to put them in an environment conducive to learning at this young age.

Playschool Education – Academic routine

When deciding which playschool to send your child to, try and find something that isn’t very academically inclined. Your child shouldn’t be struggling, trying to learn something like math at such a young age. Instead, find a play school that focuses on letting a child have fun while learning.

Playschool Education – Social opportunities

Play schools also provide an opportunity for children to socialize with other children. In addition, he will also gradually get used to the concept of a classroom in an informal manner, making his transition into school that much easier. So, if you live in an isolated neighborhood or in a place where there are not many other children your child’s age, it makes sense to send your child to playschool. Your child will learn to interact with numerous children at a young age.

Yes, the social benefits of sending your child to playschool are undeniable, but don’t expect miracles. If your child is shy, sending him to playschool will not automatically transform him into a confident person. In addition, you may find that there are other ways to help your child socialize. If you have membership to your local club for example, you could consider enrolling your child in sports.

Routine

Sending your child to a playschool helps ease him into a routine earlier on. However, remember that even if your child doesn’t go to playschool initially, 12-14 years of schooling followed by college will get him accustomed to a routine anyway. Whether or not he continues with the discipline depends on his innate nature and the job he takes up – and not on whether he has been to playschool or not.

What’s the point of homework?

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

All the best wishes to you on this amazing journey. This will surely give us an easy life.

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