Before having my son, I was determined!

Before having my son, I was determined to have a clean, tidy and organised living room 24×7 unlike the ones I had seen, taken over by toys.

But like all the other things I said, I would never do, it was difficult to avoid, once I was a parent. And I am thankful to God for having such a loving and caring family members. My children have always got all their best toys as gifts.

I have always tried to curtail their collection of toys. As a toddler, he had spent most of his time at home, playing with mixing bowl and measuring cups.

Before having my son, I was determined to have a clean living room 24×7.

As I watched him enjoying and playing with gift boxes and wrappings while ignoring the toys inside, I became curious about how many toys kids actually need. So I decided to do some research. Thanks to Google, I got answers to all my questions. 

As a mother, I am putting down all my finding related to toys, parenting, food and everything that a parent need to this blog. This will satisfy your curiosity and save your time.

Before having my son, I was determined to have a clean, tidy and organised house. here are all my finding to satisfy your curiosity and save your time.
As a mother, I am putting down all my finding related to toys, to this blog. This will satisfy your curiosity and save your time.

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Please Do read the part 1, to know the list of  occasions we buy toys.

Do read the part 2, list of mindset while buying the toys.

and Do read Part 3 of 3, Points to keep in mind while taking the final decision at the store.

A Happy childhood is the most precious gift we can give to our child.

How much food my child needs?

This is one more question that arises in parent’s mind everyday while serving food

How much food my child needs?

The appetite of young children can change from one day to the next.

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As parents or caregivers, you decide:
• What kind of food we serve to our child
• What time of day are we serving food
• the place where the food will be served

Your child decides:
• among all the food that is serve, which ones are worth eating. And which are not appealing, and can be rejected by saying no or by showing tantrums.
• how much should I eat.

Start feeding your child in small amounts and let them re-ask if needed. Your child will respond according to his need.

Occasionally, your child will starve and eat a lot. And will eat less when not much Hungry. This is normal. If your child is not hungry, do not pressurise or bribe him to eat or to finish the meal.
If you have any questions about your child’s development or hunger, talk to your doctor.

Appetite of your child worrying you?

Appetite of your child? How much food my child needs?

Appetite of child. How much food my child needs? Parents worry everyday when they server children food to their child. it is a constant issue
Appetite of child. How much food my child needs? Parents worry everyday when they server children food to their child. it is a constant issue. Photo by Tiago Pereira on Pexels.com

Appetite of your child makes you worry?

How much food my child needs? This is one more question that arises in parent’s mind everyday when they server them any of the meals. How much food my child needs?This question also pops up when people enquire and compare their child with other children.

How much food my child needs?

Healthy eating habits and stress free childhood is an indicator of healthy parenting, in the world of parenting.

The appetite of young children can change from one day to the next. 

Parent’s mindsets while serving food to their child:

 As parents or caregivers, you decide:

  • What kind of food we serve to our child. : As mother it becomes tough to choose between the healthy food that we want to serve to our children and whatever he eats.
  • What time of day are we serving food. As mothers, we just always look for a chance to feed our children. Feeding children is a full time project for any mother.
  • the place where the food will be served: that is a trick point. For most of the mothers, it is wherever child sits to eat. But honestly, especially in toddlers case, they never sit in one place, long enough to finish their meal.

Your child decides:

  • among all the food that is served, which ones are worth eating. And which are not appealing and can be rejected by showing tantrums.
  • how much should I eat: they also decide how hungry they are and what amount of food is ok for them.

How much food my child needs?

We will get the answer by trying the following ways which will increase your child’s appetite, and make you happy parents.

  • Start feeding your child in small amounts and let them re-ask if needed. Your child will respond according to his need.
  • Occasionally, your child will starve and eat a lot. So, give him the second serving. This way he will not see full plate at a time.
  • He  will eat less when not much Hungry. This is normal. If your child is not hungry, do not pressurize or bribe him to eat or to finish the meal.
  • Do not serve many munching in between, that reduces his craving for food at the time of meal.
  • If your child is active and happy then there is nothing to worry about. A starving child will not be active and happy throughout the day.
  • During the meal time if your child denied eating, please take away the food. Do not ask or pressurized him for eating for another 1-2hours. He will surely eat the next time you offer him.
  • Timely eating will also help in knowing the answer to your question.
  • If you still have any questions about your child’s development or hunger, talk to your doctor.

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

All the best wishes to you on this amazing journey. This will surely give us easy life.

If these tips help you in finding your answer, please comment. You can also comment, if you are having any other questions related to parenting. 

What can I do to help my child eat well?

There is a question that always pops in my mind and to every parent at some point of time.

What can I do to help my child eat well?

There is no fixed answer to this question, but a list of ways, that can surely help in solving this problem.

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  1. Sit and eat with your child. And serve every thing in small portions, that you have served in your plate.
  2. Show your child what eating healthy is like. You are your child’s best role model. They will learn to eat and explore new foods by watching what you do.
  3. Offer new foods many times.Children often need to see, smell, and touch a food many times before tasting it. Your child may need to taste a food many times before they eat it. Continue to offer new foods and include foods your child has refused in the past.
  4. Give your child enough time to eat.
    Young children learn by touching, smelling and looking at foods. Give your child time to learn about the foods you offer. Learning to use a spoon and fork also takes time. Plan time to sit and eat slowly with your child.
  5. A mess is also part of learning how to eat.Try offering the same food in different ways.Be patient. Keep giving your child foods made in different ways: raw, cooked (steamed, roasted), in stews, soups and sauces. If your child likes vegetables cooked a certain way, give them other vegetables made that same way.
  6. Offer new foods with foods your child already likes.Offer new foods often and serve them with at least 1 food that your child likes.
  7. If your child doesn’t want to eat, or eats very little at a meal, offer a healthy snack 1 to 2 hours later. Making a different meal for your child will not help them become a healthy eater. Sometimes young children only want to eat the same foods over and over again. This is normal and may last for a few weeks or months.
  8. .If the “favourite” food is healthy, continue to offer it along with a variety of other healthy foods. If the “favourite” food is a less healthy option, give it to your child less often.

As parents, we can teach them to enjoy food. Earlier the better, because, it will make our lives easy.

Wishing you happy parenting, that leads to happier you.

Teach children to enjoy food

As parents, we can teach our children to eat and enjoy food. It will make our lives easier. These ways will be helpful to every mother, in building healthy eating habit.

Enjoy food. Eat properly. Mothers say this most of the times.

What can I do to help my child eat well? There is a question that always pops in my mind and to every parent at some point of time. How will my child eat well.

There is no fixed answer to this question, but there is a list of ways, that can surely help in solving this problem.

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  • Sit and eat with your child and serve every thing in small portions, that you have served in your plate.
  • Show your child what eating healthy is like. You are your child’s best role model. They will learn to eat and explore new foods by watching what you do.
  • Offer new foods many times. They often need to see, smell and touch a food many times before tasting it.
  • Your child may need to taste a food many times before they eat it. So,Continue to offer new foods and include foods your child has refused in the past.
  • Give your child enough time to eat.
  • Young children learn by touching, smelling and looking at foods.
  • Give your child time to learn about the foods you offer. Learning to use a spoon and fork also takes time.
  • Plan time to sit and eat slowly with your child.
  • Making Mess at home is also part of learning.
  • Try offering the same food in different ways.
  • Be patient and keep giving your child foods made in different ways: raw, cooked (steamed, roasted), in stews, soups and sauces.
  • If your child likes vegetables cooked a certain way, give them other vegetables made that same way.
  • Offer new foods with foods your child already likes.
  • Offer new foods often and serve them with food that your child likes.
  • If your child doesn’t want to eat or eats very little for a meal, offer a healthy snack 1 to 2 hours later.
  • Making a different meal for your child will not help them become a healthy eater.
  • Sometimes young children only want to eat the same foods over and over again. It is normal and may last for a few weeks or months.
  • If the “favourite” food is healthy then continue to offer it along with a variety of other healthy foods.
  • If the “favourite” food is a less healthy option,then give it to your child less often.

As parents, we can teach them to enjoy food and it will make our lives easy.

Wishing you happy parenting, that leads to happier you.

Please find other useful links related to stabilising healthy eating habit in children, which leads to healthy and happy childhood.

Make it precious not beautiful

(Tuesday morning)

“Rahul,when is your science project submission date. “
“Mumma, it’s next Monday, we still have a week to finish.”
” Rahul, ask your classmates today, what are they making.”
” Why, Mumma?”
“Because, your’s should be the best.”

(Thursday morning)
“Rahul, did anyone deposite their project?”
“Yes, some have done. When will we do our project?”
” Don’t worry, I am there.”

(Saturday evening, after school)
” Rahul, don’t go for playing today, we have to do our project.”

(Sunday)
“Rahul, no playing, we have to decorate our project, it should look the best.”

(Monday, in school)
Teacher: ” Congratulations everyone, for finishing your project works on time. Please come and explain about your project.” Indeed Rahul’s project was well designed and presented.

 But was it needed?Now let’s look at the unseen part of it.

Tuesday 2:00 pm, Sarita, Rahul’s mom, had finished all her work, googled all the possible topics for son’s project. She made a list of all the projects, which they can do.
Wednesday, Sarita, called some of her friends and relatives to enquire for the best topic to make the project. She then, struck off the common topics from her list.
Thursday 2:00 pm, she deleted the topics that were done by Rahul’s classmates.
Friday she collected all the requirements.
Saturday 2:00 pm, she arranged every thing to one place.Night, Sarita sat with Rahul, after finishing her daily chores. Rahul was sleepy by 11:00 pm so Sarita finished some portions, just to help Rahul.Sunday, They sat again, this time they had to hurry up. Sarita helped him, by finishing most of his work. Rahul’s work was not very neat, so Sarita did the finishing tough to the project.They finished it on time.Monday, Rahul was feeling proud as he was praised by one and all. 

Such a happy ending to the story of making a science project.

But, was it worth? Was it solving the purpose? Was it by anyway helpful to the child? 
You all might not like it, but the answer is 

NO. A big NO

Was Sarita student of that class? The answer is again NO.
You can replace mother in this story with father or any other elder. As long as the effort is done by anyone other than the person, it is meant to be, the effort is useless.
I am not saying a child of any age can do their work all by their own.
I am just saying, 

BE THE GUIDE, DON’T BE ASSISTANT.

Help him by questions like,

 what do you think should be our topic?

From where can we get the informative material?

Will you just collect some information, then, we will together discuss on the best doable topic.

Can you collect the required material, that we have at home, make a list of things we need to buy or arrange. 

And many thought provoking questions like this. 
Let it be your child’s project. 
  

And most importantly, it is not required that it appears best, it should solve it’s purpose the most.

Haha, as a mother, I know, it is tough to control ourselves from taking over the task, but have patience, it is possible.

And believe me, as a teacher, I can assure you, their teacher will like it more, when it is done by your child and not you.

Please make every small experience, a precious learning for life. 

P.s. By making a project by his own, our child is taking small steps towards learning to handle his life.
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