Let me put it differently

My hobby is gardening. That is why the season of rain, greenery brings more joy to me. I love watching plants grow. I feel joyful when around lush greens. When  plants get best environmental conditions they grow and flourish well.

SAVE YOUR CHILD, BY STRETCHING HIS CHILDHOOD.

A blog post by Roshni Shukla, Educator & Happy Parenting Coach on how small things can burden a child, if the activities are not age appropriate.

By profession, I am a preschool teacher, so I am always around lots of energy and positivity. I love watching toddlers grow and get ready for their formal schooling. Childhood is all about joy and happiness.

It is July, season of rain. Best time to plan, design, redesign, shift, your terrace, kitchen garden, balcony, front garden,back yard or any other place that you have. It is also best time for the Nursery owners and farmers to plan for upcoming season. It is July, also season for school admissions. Best time to plan admitting your 2-3 years old to his very first play school, shifting a 6 years old to a formal school, shifting a primary student to a middle school because you think the other school will do justice to your child, shifting a ninth grader to a school which provides better preparatory classes for tenth and higher studies, shifting your confused and still adjusting adolescent to coaching centres that produce a batch of adults with tired minds. It is also best time for parents to choose best subject for their eleventh grader, because, parents think their child is good at their choice of subject, and that very subject will decide the fate of your child. It is know fact, we, the parents know it all. We everytime know what is best for our child. We even know which are their choice of subjects.

Ok, let me not confuse you, with these long and complex sentences. Let’s just consider one part at a time.

Coming back to our gardeners, they put seeds first in green house, in seedling trays. They  make the environment suitable for these seedlings, so they could grow properly.

Similarly,  we admit our toddlers to a playschool or preprimary school setup. Yes, it is true that play schools and preprimary schools are places  which are designed keeping in mind the learning requirements to this age group. It provides separate setup, separate set of teachers, who are smiling, motherly and most importantly soft spoken. The curriculum also gives these schools the liberty to do things at a pace which is not too tiring for the child.  Just imagine if the gardener decides to put some of the seedlings in to the open garden area, within 15 days of their life. Nature is very kind, they will still grow. Gardener, might feel happy, that he has saved his time by shifting the seedlings early. But will this not put some stress to these seedlings? Gardener could have avoided that harsh Sun or heavy rains for few more days.

As parents, we have made plans for our child’s future, a timeline set for everything.

Some parents come to our school, trust us, follow the age criteria and admit their child accordingly.

Some parents come to us with better plans.

” Mam, my child is 2 and a half years old, but I know she is very active, so I request you to please admit her in a class higher than her age group.”

To this, we as teachers tell them, that it will just lead to alot of stress to your child. School will be a new place for her to adjust to. On top of that if she is admitted to a class where all the other children  are one year elder to her, she will have to adjust and cope up with that batch. A batch which is physically and mentally one year elder to her.

Some parents agree, and some don’t.

This lengthy writeup is addressed to all those who do not agree to our request. 

Trust me on this, at this early years of life, this difference in mental age counts.

Imagine this girl sitting in a class learning to hold a pencil in her grip, where everyone else has mastered the prewriting strokes. Oh! and this is not enough, she will be doing some extra effort at home to hold pencil and write, because, parents want her to catch-up with the class too.

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE

Be the patient Gardener, give your child, his time to grow, than shift him to the next setup.

Don’t be the gardener who just wanted to shift his seedlings in hurry.

DON’T SAVE YOUR TIME, BY STRESSING A CHILD. 

SAVE YOUR CHILD, BY STRETCHING HIS CHILDHOOD.

I wish this message reaches every parent. If you support this philosophy of extending childhood years, please like, share, comment and follow.

5 ways child will stop biting.

5 ways child will stop biting/ biting problem in children

When your child bites, you feel bad for the way your child is behaving and also for the victim who nurses a throbbing red mark. You want your child to stop biting. Other parents are appalled. You wish you could just sink into the ground. For your child’s age, this could be the most antisocial work. Understanding why a child bites is key to beating the problem. Not all children bite out of anger or to hurt another child – in fact kids can’t really understand how much pain they’re causing.

5 ways child will stop biting.

 this article will tell you about 5 ways the child will stop biting habit.
5 ways child will stop biting.
this article will tell you about 5 ways the child will stop biting habit. As a parent, to stop biting habit of your child, you just need to understand the causes behind this. Just handle the situation calming next time. 5 ways to stop child from biting.
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As a parent, to stop biting habit of your child, you just need to understand the causes behind this. Just handle the situation calming next time. 

Read 5 Reasons Why do children bite?

In all instances, react swiftly, and keep your cool. Don’t ever – ever – bite back or hit – retaliation could be dangerous. “You’re just teaching them violence causes violence,” But don’t dodge the issue – children need to know immediately that what they have done is wrong.

Here are the 5 ways to stop child from biting:

1️⃣Intervene:

 You need to be observant, look how intense, how frequent the bites are and what are the targets. 

  • One of the best ways is to act before your child has a chance to sink their teeth into anyone. Parents might be slow at doing this, but it is always one of the best ways. 
  • Separate your child away from the person they’re about to bite. 
  • Don’t put them into large groups if that’s where it happens. Plan in advance for their behaviour.
  • Children often clench their teeth before they bite – an unmistakable sign. React swiftly.
  • Take the child somewhere quiet to calm down.
  • If a teething child is trying out his or her teeth, find toys to chew and chomp on.      

 2️⃣Teach them it’s wrong:

  • When your child bites, use simple but firm words. 
  • Try, “that’s biting, that’s wrong” or a firm “no”.
  • If you’re in a group, remove them from the situation. 
  • Explain that it hurts others and why you don’t like kids biting.

3️⃣Teach them to express themselves: 

When things have calmed down, try to help your child find a less painful way to express their feelings.

  •  If a child is biting to show his affection, there are chances he might not do this again.
  • *If your child’s expressing love, teach them to hug rather than bite whenever they feel strong emotions.
  • If your child bites out of defence, show them how to tell somebody they don’t want him or her too close. Teach them to make the “stop” sign (a hand held up) or ask them even gently to push the other child’s shoulder which won’t hurt but gives a clear message.
  • Teach them to come and find you instead if they’re angry.

4️⃣Reduce the effectiveness:

When children bite to gain attention, dealing with it is trickier. 

  • After the first big  incidence, don’t try to reason or explain.Give a firm “no”. 
  • Put your body between victim and biter and turn your back on the biter.
  • Give the victim sympathy and the biter a clear message this is an unproductive way of getting attention.

5️⃣If time-out is one of your methods:

*If time-out is one of your methods, now’s the time to use it.

  • *If the bite was over a toy or treat, remove it for a short while.
  • If a child tries to control his or her mum by biting, try physically putting a part of their body in the way as they go to bite – an arm or a leg, which will stop them in their tracks.

Now as you have read till here, this is an extra tip, which works wonders –

Praise them for good behavior”: Praise them for good behavior and see how the problem fades away. Beware, don’t over do it. 

When to ask for help: Don’t rush to a therapist; seek help or advice from friends and other parents, or teachers. This is very unlikely that you will fail after this, but if you do, then surely visit a therapist.

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

All the best wishes to you on this amazing journey. This will surely give us an easy life.

If these tips help you in finding your answer, please comment. You can also comment, if you are having any other questions related to parenting. 

5 reasons why your Child BITES

5 reasons why your Child BITES / biting habit in children

When your child bites, you feel bad for the way your child is behaving and also for the victim who nurses a throbbing red mark. Other parents are appalled. You wish you could just sink into the ground. For your child’s age, this could be the most antisocial work. When your child bites, you feel bad for the way your child is behaving and also for the victim who nurses a throbbing red mark. When your child bites, you feel bad for the way your child is behaving and also for the victim who nurses a throbbing red mark. Other parents are appalled. You wish you could just sink into the ground. For your child’s age, this could be the most antisocial work.

If a child bites an apple it's OK, but biting others is not. Find about 5 reasons why your child bites.
If a child bites an apple it’s GOOD, but not when he bites someone else. Find about 5 reasons why your child bites. Photo by Saya Kimura from Pexels

Not all kids bite, but experts say up every 4th child will do at some stage – mostly between the ages of 2 & 3. It is a phase that passes by 4 yrs, most children have grown out of it. Some try the odd bite and move on, others grow into REGULAR biters.

And when we are talking about regular biters, it’s a serious issue. It hurts to see the victim in so much pain. This could also get your child kicked out of nursery. It doesn’t mean your child is a monster – many biters are otherwise gentle and sociable.

5 Reasons Why do children bite?

Understanding why a child bites is key to beating the problem. Not all children bite out of anger or to hurt another child – in fact kids can’t really understand how much pain they’re causing. “Question yourself what the child is gaining by biting,”

“Think what the reward is for him or her – does he get a huge amount of attention?”

Experts advise parents to try and see biting as a way of communicating rather than just bad behaviour – once we do that, we’ve got more choices in how to respond.

5 Reasons Why do children bite?

  1. Expressing emotion: Oddly enough, young toddlers can bite as a way of showing love. “Toddlers have really intense feelings but don’t know how to show them, “Biting can be a way of expressing their feelings. Mothers often don’t understand why it’s just them who get bitten.”
  2. Experimenting: Toddlers are learning how their body works – they put things in their mouths, and sometimes bite.  It’s impulsive and they don’t mean to hurt. Often, a baby bites someone when they’re teething. Sometimes toddlers bite when they’re over-excited.
  3. Defending: Young children learn to bite as a defence, especially if they can’t talk. Sometimes when children are late at learning to speak, they use biting as their defence. They bite whenever they are anxious or feeling threatened. These children are trying to establish a safety zone. Sometimes changes or upsets at home can bring on this type of biting. 
  4. Controlling: Some children know biting as a method of getting to do what they want from the other children or their parents. They don’t always do this consciously. It may happen when a group of children are jostling to be leader. Sometimes the youngest child in the family bites to gain power. Those who have done this, knows biting is a fantastic way of getting attention, even if it’s negative, still purpose solved.
  5. Frustrated or irritated: Your child wants a toy back. Or they want a biscuit or adult attention, or can’t cope with a situation. They may not understand turn-taking and sharing. Or things may have changed at home or the child feels under stress. Your child doesn’t necessarily mean to cause harm, but just can’t find the words to express themselves.

As a parent, you just need to understand the causes behind this biting habit. Just handle the situation calmly next time. Comfort your child. 

Read 5 ways to stop child from biting. 

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

All the best wishes to you on this amazing journey. This will surely give us an easy life.

If these tips help you in finding your answer, please comment. You can also comment, if you are having any other questions related to parenting. 

जब आपका बच्चा स्कूल से टिफिन खाए बिना वापस आए तो इस्तेमाल करें यह 7 युक्तियां

1. मां- मेरी बेटी किंडरगार्टन के पहले वर्ष में है। वह स्कूल से टिफिन खा कर नहीं आती,क्या करूं?
बच्चा – स्कूल बच्चे के लिए नई जगह है, हर बच्चा अलग तरह से एडजस्ट करने की कोशिश कर रहा है। कुछ नए माहौल में अपनी मां को खोजते हैं, क्योंकि या तो उन्हें अपने आप खाने की आदत नहीं होती/ उस समय खाने की आदत नहीं होती/ टिफिन से खाना समझ नहीं आता/ दूसरे की टिफिन में कुछ ज्यादा अच्छा दिखता या इतने सारे नए चहरे दिखते हैं कि घर की याद में समझ नहीं आता क्या करें।इसके अलावा भी कई कारण हो सकते हैं।वैसे तो ऐसी परिस्थतियों में टीचर स्कूल में प्रयास करती होंगी, फिर भी कई बार बच्चे नहीं खाते। और घर लौटते तक भूख से इतने परेशान हो जाते हैं, की बहुत देर रोते और चिड़चिड़ापन होता है।क्या करें? : बच्चे को सुबह कुछ खिला कर स्कूल भेजें ताकि वो वहां प्रसन्नचित पहुंचे। टिफिन में उससे दिखा कर उसके पसंद का समान रखें। बच्चों को स्कूल भेजने की उम्र से पहले ही धीरे धीरे अपने हांथों के खाना सिखाएं।2. उनका स्कूल में दिन शुरू होने से पहले उन्हें बेहतर नाश्ता करवा कर भेजें।3. मां- टिफिन तो पसंद का ही भेजते हैं पर टिफिन फिनिष नहीं होता।
बच्चा – टिफिन खाऊं पूरा या खेलने जाऊं?क्या करें? : अक्सर स्कूल में लंच टाइम 20-25 मिनिट का होता है, ऐसे में छोटे बच्चों को वो टिफिन में दीजिए जिसे इतने समय में खाना उनके लिए आसान है। बहुत सूखा नाश्ता भी ना भेजें, गले में अटकता खाना बच्चे नहीं खा पाते। रोटियों पराठा का रोल, या हाथ में पकड़ कर खाने वाली चीजें बच्चों को आसान लगती हैं।4. उन्हें पीने के लिए शेक या फलों की स्मूदी दें। यदि आप टिफिन में सलाद जैसा कुछ रखते हैं तो सभी कच्ची सब्जियों को बहुत पतला काटें और उन्हें एक डिप के साथ परोसें (जैसे कि रेंच ड्रेसिंग, हुम्मस, बोर्सिन चीज़ स्प्रेड, गुआकामोल, क्रीम चीज़, सोया नट बटर)। सेब जैसे फलों को छीलें और उन्हें थोड़ा भूरा होने से बचाने के लिए थोड़ा नींबू का रस डाल कर सील करने योग्य कंटेनर में भेजें।संतरे या कीनू को पहले छील लें और सिर्फ स्लाइस पैक करें। फलों या पनीर को छोटे क्यूब्स में काटें, और साथ में कांटा रखें।5. मां- टिफिन में हर दिन क्या रखूं।
बच्चा – आज फिर ये टिफिन, मुझे नहीं खाना।क्या करें?: कोई भी मां इस एक काम को बड़े अच्छे से कर सकती है। टिफिन देखने में आकर्षक लगेगी तो बच्चे का खाने का मन होगा।6. सुनिश्चित करें कि आप अपने बच्चे को एक प्रोटीन, एक स्टार्च और एक फल या सब्ज़ी हर समय भोजन और नाश्ते में परोसें।

7. यदि बच्चा टिफिन के अलावा दिन के बाकी समय में प्रोटीन युक्त भोजन करेंगे तो उन्हें स्कूल में लो सुगर के थकान महसूस नहीं होगी। बच्चे कम चिड़चिड़े रहेंगे।यह युक्तियां आपके स्कूल के समय को घर पर बेहतर बनाने में आपकी मदद करेंगी।

Unfinished Tiffin! This might help.

Unfinished Tiffin! This might help.जब आपका बच्चा स्कूल से टिफिन/ lunch box/tiffin खाए बिना वापस आए तो इस्तेमाल करें यह 7 युक्तियां। Healthy parenting and healthy eating habits go hand in hand. This is also part of early childhood development. Let’s provide healthy childhood to our younger lot, who have just started going to playgroup, kindergarten, pre school or has just shifted from daycare to formal school.

Unfinished tiffin! Follow these seven tips, to get a finished tiffin back home.

1. मां- मेरी बेटी किंडरगार्टन के पहले वर्ष में है। वह स्कूल से टिफिन/tiffin खा कर नहीं आती,क्या करूं? बच्चा – स्कूल बच्चे के लिए नई जगह है, हर बच्चा अलग तरह से एडजस्ट करने की कोशिश कर रहा है।

कुछ नए माहौल में अपनी मां को खोजते हैं, क्योंकि या तो उन्हें अपने आप खाने के आदत नहीं होती/ उस समय खाने की आदत नहीं होती।

टिफिन/tiffin से खाना समझ नहीं आता/ दूसरे की टिफिन में कुछ ज्यादा अच्छा दिखता।

इतने सारे नए चहरे दिखते हैं कि घर की याद में समझ नहीं आता क्या करें।

इ सके अलावा और भी कारण हो सकते हैं। ऐसी परिस्थतियों में टीचर स्कूल में प्रयास करती होंगी।

फिर भी कई बार बच्चे नहीं खाते।

घर लौटते तक भूख से इतने परेशान हो जाते हैं, की बहुत देर रोते और चिड़चिड़ापन होता है।

क्या करें? : बच्चे को सुबह कुछ नाश्ता खिलाकर स्कूल भेजें ताकि वो वहां प्रसन्नचित पहुंचे।

टिफिन में उससे दिखा कर उसके पसंद का समान रखें।

बच्चों को स्कूल भेजने की उम्र से पहले ही धीरे धीरे अपने हांथों के खाना सिखाएं।

2. उनका स्कूल में दिन शुरू होने से पहले उन्हें बेहतर नाश्ता करवा कर भेजें।

3. मां- टिफिन तो पसंद का ही भेजते हैं पर टिफिन फिनिष नहीं होता।

बच्चा – टिफिन खाऊं पूरा या खेलने जाऊं?

क्या करें? : अक्सर स्कूल में लंच टाइम 20-25 मिनिट का होता है, ऐसे में छोटे बच्चों को वो भोजन टिफिन में दीजिए जिसे इतने समय में खाना उनके लिए आसान है।

बहुत सूखा नाश्ता भी ना भेजें, गले में अटकता खाना बच्चे नहीं खा पाते।

रोटियों पराठा का रोल, या हाथ में पकड़ कर खाने वाली चीजें बच्चों को आसान लगती हैं।

4. उन्हें पीने के लिए शेक या फलों की स्मूदी दें।

यदि आप टिफिन में सलाद जैसा कुछ रखते हैं तो सभी कच्ची सब्जियों को बहुत पतला काटें।

और उन्हें एक डिप के साथ परोसें

(जैसे कि रेंच ड्रेसिंग, हुम्मस, बोर्सिन चीज़ स्प्रेड, गुआकामोल, क्रीम चीज़, सोया नट बटर)।

सेब जैसे फलों को छीलें और उन्हें थोड़ा भूरा होने से बचाने के लिए थोड़ा नींबू का रस डाल कर सील करने योग्य कंटेनर में भेजें।

संतरा, कीनू को पहले छील लें और सिर्फ स्लाइस पैक करें।

फलों या पनीर को छोटे क्यूब्स में काटें, और साथ में कांटा रखें।

5. मां- टिफिन में हर दिन क्या रखूं। बच्चा – आज फिर ये टिफिन, मुझे नहीं खाना।

क्या करें?: कोई भी मां इस एक काम को बड़े अच्छे से कर सकती है।

टिफिन देखने में आकर्षक लगेगी तो बच्चे का खाने का मन होगा।

6. सुनिश्चित करें कि आप अपने बच्चे को एक प्रोटीन, एक स्टार्च और एक फल या सब्ज़ी हर समय भोजन और नाश्ते में परोसें।

7. यदि बच्चा टिफिन के अलावा दिन के बाकी समय में प्रोटीन युक्त भोजन करेंगे तो उन्हें स्कूल में लो सुगर के थकान महसूस नहीं होगी।

बच्चे कम चिड़चिड़े रहेंगे।यह युक्तियां आपके स्कूल के समय को घर पर बेहतर बनाने में आपकी मदद करेंगी।

कई बार बच्चे मन नहीं होने पर या खाने का निश्चित समय नहीं होने पर भी खाना नहीं खाते।

Link में जानिए बच्चे तो किस समय खाना खाने बैठाएं

Let me put it differently

My hobby is gardening. That is why the season of rain, greenery brings more joy to me. I love watching plants grow. I feel joyful when around lush greens. When  plants get best environmental conditions they grow and flourish well.

SAVE YOUR CHILD, BY STRETCHING HIS CHILDHOOD.

A blog post by Roshni Shukla, Educator & Happy Parenting Coach on how small things can burden a child, if the activities are not age appropriate.

By profession, I am a preschool teacher, so I am always around lots of energy and positivity. I love watching toddlers grow and get ready for their formal schooling. Childhood is all about joy and happiness.

It is July, season of rain. Best time to plan, design, redesign, shift, your terrace, kitchen garden, balcony, front garden,back yard or any other place that you have. It is also best time for the Nursery owners and farmers to plan for upcoming season. It is July, also season for school admissions. Best time to plan admitting your 2-3 years old to his very first play school, shifting a 6 years old to a formal school, shifting a primary student to a middle school because you think the other school will do justice to your child, shifting a ninth grader to a school which provides better preparatory classes for tenth and higher studies, shifting your confused and still adjusting adolescent to coaching centres that produce a batch of adults with tired minds. It is also best time for parents to choose best subject for their eleventh grader, because, parents think their child is good at their choice of subject, and that very subject will decide the fate of your child. It is know fact, we, the parents know it all. We everytime know what is best for our child. We even know which are their choice of subjects.

Ok, let me not confuse you, with these long and complex sentences. Let’s just consider one part at a time.

Coming back to our gardeners, they put seeds first in green house, in seedling trays. They  make the environment suitable for these seedlings, so they could grow properly.

Similarly,  we admit our toddlers to a playschool or preprimary school setup. Yes, it is true that play schools and preprimary schools are places  which are designed keeping in mind the learning requirements to this age group. It provides separate setup, separate set of teachers, who are smiling, motherly and most importantly soft spoken. The curriculum also gives these schools the liberty to do things at a pace which is not too tiring for the child.  Just imagine if the gardener decides to put some of the seedlings in to the open garden area, within 15 days of their life. Nature is very kind, they will still grow. Gardener, might feel happy, that he has saved his time by shifting the seedlings early. But will this not put some stress to these seedlings? Gardener could have avoided that harsh Sun or heavy rains for few more days.

As parents, we have made plans for our child’s future, a timeline set for everything.

Some parents come to our school, trust us, follow the age criteria and admit their child accordingly.

Some parents come to us with better plans.

” Mam, my child is 2 and a half years old, but I know she is very active, so I request you to please admit her in a class higher than her age group.”

To this, we as teachers tell them, that it will just lead to alot of stress to your child. School will be a new place for her to adjust to. On top of that if she is admitted to a class where all the other children  are one year elder to her, she will have to adjust and cope up with that batch. A batch which is physically and mentally one year elder to her.

Some parents agree, and some don’t.

This lengthy writeup is addressed to all those who do not agree to our request. 

Trust me on this, at this early years of life, this difference in mental age counts.

Imagine this girl sitting in a class learning to hold a pencil in her grip, where everyone else has mastered the prewriting strokes. Oh! and this is not enough, she will be doing some extra effort at home to hold pencil and write, because, parents want her to catch-up with the class too.

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE

Be the patient Gardener, give your child, his time to grow, than shift him to the next setup.

Don’t be the gardener who just wanted to shift his seedlings in hurry.

DON’T SAVE YOUR TIME, BY STRESSING A CHILD. 

SAVE YOUR CHILD, BY STRETCHING HIS CHILDHOOD.

I wish this message reaches every parent. If you support this philosophy of extending childhood years, please like, share, comment and follow.