Less toys more development

Development of a child will be more with lesser toys. While most of the space in our child’s almirah is filled with toys, we can become wise parents and learn to limit the number of toys that our kids have to play with.

Toys are not something to just play with. Toys form the building blocks for our child’s future and development. They teach our children about the world and about themselves. They send messages and communicate values. So, intelligent and wise parents think about what foundation is being laid by the toys that are given to their kids. And they want toys that lead to development of the child.

Wise parents also think about the number of toys that children are given. They understand that fewer toys will actually benefit their child’s development in the long-term:

  • Children learn to be more organised. They  live in a cleaner, tidier home. If you have children, you know that toy clutter can quickly take over an entire home. Fewer toys results in a less-cluttered, cleaner, healthier home.
Lesser toys will be more fruitful for the child's development. Having lesser toys, is a better idea to give your child a childhood full of learning. It is not that toys are not important for a child. They are important. But, we don't have to keep giving them a toy in the very first chance we get. Lesser toys will lead to better development of a child.

  • Increase in the creativity of a child. Too many toys prevent kids from fully developing their gift of imagination.  Although boredom set in during the initial stages of the experiment, the children soon began to use their basic surroundings to invent games and use imagination in their playing.
Lesser toys will be more fruitful for the child’s development.
  • Children learn perseverance. Children who have too many toys give up too quickly. If they have a toy that they can’t figure out, it will quickly be discarded for the sake of a different, easier one. Kids with fewer toys learn perseverance, patience, and determination.
Lesser toys will be more fruitful for the child’s development.
  • Children become less selfish. Kids who get everything they want believe they can have everything they want. 

  •  Kids establish better social skills. Children with fewer toys learn how to develop interpersonal relationships with other kids and adults. They learn the give and take of a good conversation. 

  • Children develop a sense of responsibility for their belongings. When kids have too many toys, they will naturally take less care of them. They will not learn to value them if there is always a replacement ready at hand. If you have a child who is constantly damaging their toys, just take a bunch away. He will quickly learn.
Lesser toys will be more fruitful for the child’s development.
  • Children experience more of nature. Children who do not have a basement full of toys are more apt to play outside and develop a deep appreciation for nature. They are also more likely to be involved in physical exercise which results in healthier and happier bodies.

  •  Due to Fewer options to play, kids develop a habit of reading, writing a learning faster than children who have lots of games to occupy their time. Fewer toys allows your children to love books, music, coloring, and painting. And a love for art will help them better appreciate beauty, emotion, and communication in their world.

  • Kids become more resourceful. Fewer toys causes children to become resourceful by solving problems with only the materials at hand. And resourcefulness is a gift with unlimited potential.
Lesser toys will be more fruitful for the child’s development.
  • Kids argue with each other less. This may seem counter-intuitive. Many parents believe that more toys will result in less fighting, because, there are more options available. However, the opposite is true far too often. Siblings argue about toys.

  •  Kids learn to find satisfaction outside of the toy store. True joy and contentment will never be found in the aisles of a toy store. Children need encouragement to live counter-cultural lives finding joy in things that truly last.

  • Increase in the attention span of a child. When too many toys are introduced into a child’s life, their are unable to pay attention to one set of toys. This decreases the attention span to a child. A child will rarely learn to fully appreciate the toy in front of them when there are countless options.

Having lesser toys, is a better idea to give your child a childhood full of learning. It is not that toys are not important for a child. They are important. But, we don’t have to keep giving them a toy in the very first chance we get.

Alternatively, we should limit the number of toys, and give our child a chance to explore things around him.

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Why children like to have toys?

Why do children like to have toys in their life? The reason is same to which we as adults want things as our recreations. Toys play a very important part in the life of a child and an adult.

We want to have cars, bikes, best gadgets, best dresses etc. For a child toys fill that space.

One can have a liking for different toys at different ages. Some open-ended toys are favorite of every age.

Snakes and ladders is a ancient Indian game. The game is a simple race based on sheer luck, and is popular with young children.

Children connect to toys for many reasons:

  • A can child can associate toys with happy times and happy memories.
  • Games and toys which lets the child connect or imitate real life activities, will be best.
  • Toys that connect to some of the real situations will be much more memorable and useful to them.
  • It fills the space needed by the child, as a friend. 
  • Toys keep them busy even in a social gathering. 
  • They feel secure, if they have their toy is with them.
  • We have seen our kids complaint about getting bored, in a new place many times, in these kind of situations, if he has his toys around, he will not complaint of being bored.
  • Toys help them with their imagination.
  • Toys are a medium for our child to start conversations with other children.

Some of the open ended games, which are favorite of any age are:

  • Carrom: This game is very popular in India, Bangladesh, Afghanistan, Nepal, Pakistan, Sri Lanka, Arabian countries and surrounding areas. In South Asia, many clubs and cafés hold regular tournaments of carrom. It can be played by everyone in the family.
  • Chess: Chess is a two-player strategy board game. It has 8×8 grid. Chess is believed to be derived from the Indian game Chaturanga.
  •  Lego: The history of Lego spans nearly 100 years, beginning with the creation of small wooden playthings during the early 20th century.
  •  ludo: Ludo is a strategy board game for two to four players, in which the players race their four tokens from start to finish according to the rolls of a single die. Ludo is also derived from the Indian game Pachisi. The game and its variations are popular in many countries and under various names.
  • Snake and ladder: Snakes and Ladders is an ancient Indian board game. It is world classic today. The object of the game is to navigate one’s game piece, according to die rolls, from the start (bottom square) to the finish (top square), helped or hindered by ladders and snakes, respectively. The game is a simple race based on sheer luck, and is popular with young children.

There is always a favourite toy for every child at every age. Child feels connected with the toy. Please mention in the comment box below which is your favourite toy or game to play. 

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

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बच्चा खाना* खाना नहीं चाहता है?

क्या होगा अगर मेरा बच्चा खाना* खाना नहीं चाहता है? कई बार बच्चे खाना* नहीं खाना चाहते। वह अब सुस्त और गुमसुम सा रहता है। ज्यादा देर खेलता भी नहीं। पूरे दिन चिड़चिड़े से रहते है। शाम को खेलने या पड़ने में मन नहीं लगता। इस तरह की समस्या के समाधान दो आसान उपाय हो सकते हैं।

अनिल एक बहुत चंचल बच्चा है, क्लास में भी हर गतिविधि में बाकी बच्चों कि ही तरह भाग लेता रहा है। घर में भी उसे देख कर किसी को खास चिंता नहीं होती थी। मगर पिछले तीन चार महीनों से उसकी ये आदतें बदल सी गई है। वह अब सुस्त और गुमसुम सा रहता है। ज्यादा देर खेलता भी नहीं। पूरे दिन चिडचिड़ा सा रहता है। अब शाम को खेलने या पड़ने में भी उसका मन नहीं लगता। अनिल के घर वाले ये सब महसूस कर रहे हैं। 

क्या होगा अगर मेरा बच्चा खाना* खाना नहीं चाहता है? वह अब सुस्त और गुमसुम सा रहता है। इस तरह की समस्या के समाधान दो आसान उपाय हो सकते हैं।

क्या होगा अगर बच्चा खाना* नहीं खाना चाहते?

अब इस तरह की समस्या के समाधान दो आसान उपाय हो सकते हैं। 

1. यह निश्चित करना की बच्चा बीमार नहीं है या पेट में कीड़े नहीं है, आप डॉक्टर से परामर्श  करें।

2. क्या बच्चे की दिनचर्या में ऐसा कोई बदलाव आया है, जिसके कारण वो ऐसा कर रहा है। 

पहली स्थिति में तो डॉक्टर के दिए दिशा निर्देशों का पालन करें। दूसरी स्थिति में बहुत से कारण हो सकते हैं।

जिनमे से सबसे आसानी के सुधार पाने वाला कारण भोजन  से सम्बन्धित हो सकता है।

यदि हाल ही में आपके बच्चे की खुराक में बदलाव आया है तो

यह भी व्यवहार में बदलाव का कारण हो सकता है। 

बच्चे की बदलती खुराक के कई कारण हो सकते हैं:

  • उनका मूड – वह थका हुआ, परेशान या उत्तेजित महसूस करेगा तो उनकी खुराक में बदलाव होगा। 
  •   उनकी सेहत : बच्चों की सेहत ठीक नहीं होने पर भी उनकी खुराक कम हो जाती है। ऐसे में जब बच्चे ठीक हो जाते हैं, तो वापस खुराक में सुधार आने लगता है। 
  • दिन का समय: यदि हर दिन भोजन करने के समय में बदलाव आता है, तो खुराक भी अलग हो सकती है। 
  • भोजन के प्रकार की पेशकश: परोसे गए भोजन का भी खुराक पर असर होता है। यदि बच्चे ने नाश्ता बहुत सारा या गरिष्ट किया है तो भी उस भूख कम लगेगी। भोजन बच्चे की पसंद का है या नहीं यह भी खुराक में बदलाव लाता है।
  • वे कितने सक्रिय हैं। यदि बच्चा सामान्य रूप से खेलता है या दिन में ज्यादा समय बैठ कर बीतता है तो दोनो स्थिति में उसकी खुराक में अंतर होगा।

  • यदि आपका बच्चा कभी-कभी भोजन नहीं करता या बहुत कम खाता है तो यह ठीक है।
  • एक बार का भोजन या स्नैक  छूट जाने से बच्चे के स्वास्थ को नुकसान नहीं पहुंचता। “नहीं” कहना आपके बच्चे की पसंद या आज़ादी का तरीका भी है।
  • यदि आपका बच्चा खाने के लिए नहीं बैठ सकता है, तो भोजन या नाश्ते से पहले कुछ समय उस शांत वातावरण दें।
  • भोजन के समय को शांत रखें और टीवी, सेल फोन, टैबलेट और कंप्यूटर बंद कर दें।
  • खाने के लिए पुरस्कार के रूप में मिठाई या पसंदीदा भोजन का उपयोग करना आवश्यक नहीं है।
  • यदि आपका बच्चा भोजन पसंद नहीं करता है, या खाना नहीं चाहता है, तो भोजन को हटा दें और 1 से 2 घंटे बाद एक स्वस्थ नाश्ता पेश करें।

इस तरह उस धीरे से ये समझ में आएगा कि खाना हर समय उपलब्ध नहीं होगा।

उस जब भोजन परोसा गया है, तब नहीं खाने पर, फिर उसे अगले कुछ घंटे कुछ नहीं मिलेगा।

इस तरह उसकी आदत पड़ जाएगी।

शुरू में ऐसा करना थोड़ा कठिन होगा या अच्छा नहीं लगेगा,

मगर, एक दो हफ्ते में बच्चे की खुराक और आदतों में बदलाव जरूर आयेगा।

मां के दिमाग में आने वाले कुछ और सवाल – 

अपने और बच्चे के  जीवन को आसान करने के लिए आप सभी को शुभकामनाएं

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

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बच्चे को कब खाना परोसना चाहिए?

खाना? मुझे अपने बच्चे को कब खाना परोसना चाहिए?

खाना? मुझे अपने बच्चे को कब खाना परोसना चाहिए?बच्चों को खाना खिलाना, मां का दिन भर का सबसे बड़ा काम हो सकता है, और सबसे ज्यादा समय लेने वाला भी। इसी बीच जब बच्चे की थाली परोस दी गई है, पर वह नहीं खाता तो, मां, दिन भर उसके खाने की चिंता करती रहती है। ऐसे में एक प्रश्न जो मां के दिमाग में आता है –

मुझे अपने बच्चे को कब खाना परोसना चाहिए?

अक्सर इस प्रश्न के कई तरह के उत्तर मिलते हैं, जो, आस पास के लोग या घर के बड़ों के हम तक पहुंचते हैं।

अक्सर हम पूरे समय बच्चे के पीछे खाना लेकर घूमते रहते हैं। और कई बार हम बच्चे को जबरदस्ती खिलते है।

मुझे अपने बच्चे को कब खाना परोसना चाहिए?

अब आप ये तरीके भी अपनाकर देखें।

  • पूरे दिन खाने के लिए पीछे भागने के बदले, अपने बच्चे को दिन में 3 बार नाश्ता और 2 बार पूरा भोजन दें। 
  • हर दिन लगभग एक ही समय पर भोजन और नाश्ता परोसने का प्रयास करें। 
  • भोजन और नाश्ते का एक योजना बद्ध अनुकरण आपके बच्चे में खाने की आदतों को विकसित करने में मदद कर सकती है।
  • आपके बच्चे को आपके मुकाबले खाने में अधिक समय लग सकता है।
  •  उन्हें खाने को खत्म करने का समय दें। 
  • यदि आपको लगता है कि बच्चे का खाने में मन नहीं लग रहा और वो खाने से खेल कर रहा है, तो उसके सामने के खाना हटा दें, और उसको मेज से उतर कर खेलने छोड़ दें। 
  • इस तरह धीरे से बच्चा ये समझ जाएगा कि खेलना और खाना एक साथ नहीं हो सकता।
  • यदि बच्चे को कोई स्वस्थ से सम्बन्धित दिक्कत नहीं है, और वह रोज खेल कूद कर रहा है तो निश्चित रहें।
  •  बच्चे कभी भी भूखे नहीं रहते, वो अपनी आवशयकताओं के अनुसार खा लेते हैं।
  • बच्चे को दिन भर ना खिलाएं, इससे उन्हें भूख का अहसास नहीं होता।

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

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Appetite of your child worrying you?

Appetite of your child? How much food my child needs?

Appetite of child. How much food my child needs? Parents worry everyday when they server children food to their child. it is a constant issue
Appetite of child. How much food my child needs? Parents worry everyday when they server children food to their child. it is a constant issue. Photo by Tiago Pereira on Pexels.com

Appetite of your child makes you worry?

How much food my child needs? This is one more question that arises in parent’s mind everyday when they server them any of the meals. How much food my child needs?This question also pops up when people enquire and compare their child with other children.

How much food my child needs?

Healthy eating habits and stress free childhood is an indicator of healthy parenting, in the world of parenting.

The appetite of young children can change from one day to the next. 

Parent’s mindsets while serving food to their child:

 As parents or caregivers, you decide:

  • What kind of food we serve to our child. : As mother it becomes tough to choose between the healthy food that we want to serve to our children and whatever he eats.
  • What time of day are we serving food. As mothers, we just always look for a chance to feed our children. Feeding children is a full time project for any mother.
  • the place where the food will be served: that is a trick point. For most of the mothers, it is wherever child sits to eat. But honestly, especially in toddlers case, they never sit in one place, long enough to finish their meal.

Your child decides:

  • among all the food that is served, which ones are worth eating. And which are not appealing and can be rejected by showing tantrums.
  • how much should I eat: they also decide how hungry they are and what amount of food is ok for them.

How much food my child needs?

We will get the answer by trying the following ways which will increase your child’s appetite, and make you happy parents.

  • Start feeding your child in small amounts and let them re-ask if needed. Your child will respond according to his need.
  • Occasionally, your child will starve and eat a lot. So, give him the second serving. This way he will not see full plate at a time.
  • He  will eat less when not much Hungry. This is normal. If your child is not hungry, do not pressurize or bribe him to eat or to finish the meal.
  • Do not serve many munching in between, that reduces his craving for food at the time of meal.
  • If your child is active and happy then there is nothing to worry about. A starving child will not be active and happy throughout the day.
  • During the meal time if your child denied eating, please take away the food. Do not ask or pressurized him for eating for another 1-2hours. He will surely eat the next time you offer him.
  • Timely eating will also help in knowing the answer to your question.
  • If you still have any questions about your child’s development or hunger, talk to your doctor.

Happy childhood is every child’s right.

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Teach children to enjoy food

As parents, we can teach our children to eat and enjoy food. It will make our lives easier. These ways will be helpful to every mother, in building healthy eating habit.

Enjoy food. Eat properly. Mothers say this most of the times.

What can I do to help my child eat well? There is a question that always pops in my mind and to every parent at some point of time. How will my child eat well.

There is no fixed answer to this question, but there is a list of ways, that can surely help in solving this problem.

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  • Sit and eat with your child and serve every thing in small portions, that you have served in your plate.
  • Show your child what eating healthy is like. You are your child’s best role model. They will learn to eat and explore new foods by watching what you do.
  • Offer new foods many times. They often need to see, smell and touch a food many times before tasting it.
  • Your child may need to taste a food many times before they eat it. So,Continue to offer new foods and include foods your child has refused in the past.
  • Give your child enough time to eat.
  • Young children learn by touching, smelling and looking at foods.
  • Give your child time to learn about the foods you offer. Learning to use a spoon and fork also takes time.
  • Plan time to sit and eat slowly with your child.
  • Making Mess at home is also part of learning.
  • Try offering the same food in different ways.
  • Be patient and keep giving your child foods made in different ways: raw, cooked (steamed, roasted), in stews, soups and sauces.
  • If your child likes vegetables cooked a certain way, give them other vegetables made that same way.
  • Offer new foods with foods your child already likes.
  • Offer new foods often and serve them with food that your child likes.
  • If your child doesn’t want to eat or eats very little for a meal, offer a healthy snack 1 to 2 hours later.
  • Making a different meal for your child will not help them become a healthy eater.
  • Sometimes young children only want to eat the same foods over and over again. It is normal and may last for a few weeks or months.
  • If the “favourite” food is healthy then continue to offer it along with a variety of other healthy foods.
  • If the “favourite” food is a less healthy option,then give it to your child less often.

As parents, we can teach them to enjoy food and it will make our lives easy.

Wishing you happy parenting, that leads to happier you.

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Unfinished Tiffin! This might help.

Unfinished Tiffin! This might help.जब आपका बच्चा स्कूल से टिफिन/ lunch box/tiffin खाए बिना वापस आए तो इस्तेमाल करें यह 7 युक्तियां। Healthy parenting and healthy eating habits go hand in hand. This is also part of early childhood development. Let’s provide healthy childhood to our younger lot, who have just started going to playgroup, kindergarten, pre school or has just shifted from daycare to formal school.

Unfinished tiffin! Follow these seven tips, to get a finished tiffin back home.

1. मां- मेरी बेटी किंडरगार्टन के पहले वर्ष में है। वह स्कूल से टिफिन/tiffin खा कर नहीं आती,क्या करूं? बच्चा – स्कूल बच्चे के लिए नई जगह है, हर बच्चा अलग तरह से एडजस्ट करने की कोशिश कर रहा है।

कुछ नए माहौल में अपनी मां को खोजते हैं, क्योंकि या तो उन्हें अपने आप खाने के आदत नहीं होती/ उस समय खाने की आदत नहीं होती।

टिफिन/tiffin से खाना समझ नहीं आता/ दूसरे की टिफिन में कुछ ज्यादा अच्छा दिखता।

इतने सारे नए चहरे दिखते हैं कि घर की याद में समझ नहीं आता क्या करें।

इ सके अलावा और भी कारण हो सकते हैं। ऐसी परिस्थतियों में टीचर स्कूल में प्रयास करती होंगी।

फिर भी कई बार बच्चे नहीं खाते।

घर लौटते तक भूख से इतने परेशान हो जाते हैं, की बहुत देर रोते और चिड़चिड़ापन होता है।

क्या करें? : बच्चे को सुबह कुछ नाश्ता खिलाकर स्कूल भेजें ताकि वो वहां प्रसन्नचित पहुंचे।

टिफिन में उससे दिखा कर उसके पसंद का समान रखें।

बच्चों को स्कूल भेजने की उम्र से पहले ही धीरे धीरे अपने हांथों के खाना सिखाएं।

2. उनका स्कूल में दिन शुरू होने से पहले उन्हें बेहतर नाश्ता करवा कर भेजें।

3. मां- टिफिन तो पसंद का ही भेजते हैं पर टिफिन फिनिष नहीं होता।

बच्चा – टिफिन खाऊं पूरा या खेलने जाऊं?

क्या करें? : अक्सर स्कूल में लंच टाइम 20-25 मिनिट का होता है, ऐसे में छोटे बच्चों को वो भोजन टिफिन में दीजिए जिसे इतने समय में खाना उनके लिए आसान है।

बहुत सूखा नाश्ता भी ना भेजें, गले में अटकता खाना बच्चे नहीं खा पाते।

रोटियों पराठा का रोल, या हाथ में पकड़ कर खाने वाली चीजें बच्चों को आसान लगती हैं।

4. उन्हें पीने के लिए शेक या फलों की स्मूदी दें।

यदि आप टिफिन में सलाद जैसा कुछ रखते हैं तो सभी कच्ची सब्जियों को बहुत पतला काटें।

और उन्हें एक डिप के साथ परोसें

(जैसे कि रेंच ड्रेसिंग, हुम्मस, बोर्सिन चीज़ स्प्रेड, गुआकामोल, क्रीम चीज़, सोया नट बटर)।

सेब जैसे फलों को छीलें और उन्हें थोड़ा भूरा होने से बचाने के लिए थोड़ा नींबू का रस डाल कर सील करने योग्य कंटेनर में भेजें।

संतरा, कीनू को पहले छील लें और सिर्फ स्लाइस पैक करें।

फलों या पनीर को छोटे क्यूब्स में काटें, और साथ में कांटा रखें।

5. मां- टिफिन में हर दिन क्या रखूं। बच्चा – आज फिर ये टिफिन, मुझे नहीं खाना।

क्या करें?: कोई भी मां इस एक काम को बड़े अच्छे से कर सकती है।

टिफिन देखने में आकर्षक लगेगी तो बच्चे का खाने का मन होगा।

6. सुनिश्चित करें कि आप अपने बच्चे को एक प्रोटीन, एक स्टार्च और एक फल या सब्ज़ी हर समय भोजन और नाश्ते में परोसें।

7. यदि बच्चा टिफिन के अलावा दिन के बाकी समय में प्रोटीन युक्त भोजन करेंगे तो उन्हें स्कूल में लो सुगर के थकान महसूस नहीं होगी।

बच्चे कम चिड़चिड़े रहेंगे।यह युक्तियां आपके स्कूल के समय को घर पर बेहतर बनाने में आपकी मदद करेंगी।

कई बार बच्चे मन नहीं होने पर या खाने का निश्चित समय नहीं होने पर भी खाना नहीं खाते।

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Make precious life lessons

Let’s learn some precious life lessons from the project Rahul got at his school.

(Tuesday morning)

“Rahul,when is your science project submission date. “
“Mumma, it’s next Monday, we still have a week to finish.”
” Rahul, ask your classmates today, what are they making.”
” Why, Mumma?”
“Because, your’s should be the best.”

(Thursday morning)


“Rahul, did anyone deposite their project?”
“Yes, some have done. When will we do our project?”
” Don’t worry, I am there.”

(Saturday evening, after school)


” Rahul, don’t go for playing today, we have to do our project.”

(Sunday)


“Rahul, no playing, we have to decorate our project, it should look the best.”

(Monday, in school)


Teacher: ” Congratulations everyone, for finishing your project works on time. Please come and explain about your project.” Indeed Rahul’s project was well designed and presented.

 But was it needed?Now let’s look at the unseen part of it, to learn our precious life lessons.

Tuesday 2:00 pm, Sarita, Rahul’s mom, had finished all her work, googled all the possible topics for son’s project. She made a list of all the projects, which they can do.
Wednesday, she called some of her friends and relatives to enquire for the best topic to make the project. Then, struck off the common topics from her list.
Thursday 2:00 pm, she deleted the topics that were done by Rahul’s classmates.
Friday she collected all the requirements.
Saturday 2:00 pm, she arranged every thing to one place.Night, Sarita sat with Rahul, after finishing her daily chores. Rahul was sleepy by 11:00 pm so Sarita finished some portions, just to help Rahul.Sunday, They sat again, this time they had to hurry up. Sarita helped him, by finishing most of his work. Rahul’s work was not very neat, so Sarita did the finishing tough to the project.They finished it on time.Monday, Rahul was feeling proud as he was praised by one and all. 

Such a happy ending to the story of making a science project.

But, was it worth? Was it solving the purpose of project work? Was it by anyway helpful to the child? 


You all might not like it, but the answer is NO. A big NO. Was Sarita student of that class? The answer is again NO.

NO. A big NO

Precious life lessons


You can replace mother in this story with father or any other elder. Parent’s mindset puts so much pressure on the learning of the child. It is not Happy parenting. By helping child in work, school projects we are not giving them precious life lessons or stress free childhood. If they do not learn their life lessons, they will not be able to cope up with the ups and downs in life. As long as the effort is done by anyone other than the person it to was meant be, the effort is useless.
It’s not that a child of any age can do their work all alone.
I am just saying, 

BE THE GUIDE, DON’T BE ASSISTANT.

Help him by questions like,

  •  what do you think should be our topic?
  • From where can we get the informative material?
  • Will you just collect some information, then, we will together discuss on the best doable topic.
  • Can you collect the required material, that we have at home, make a list of things we need to buy or arrange. 

And many thought provoking questions like this. 
Let it be your child’s project. 
  

And most importantly, it is not required that it appears best, it should solve it’s purpose the most.

Haha, as a mother, I know, it is tough to control ourselves from taking over the task, but have patience, it is possible.

And believe me, as a teacher, I can assure you, their teacher will like it more, when it is done by your child and not you.

Please make every small experience, a precious learning for life. 

P.s. By making a project by his own, our child is taking small steps towards learning to handle his life.
If you agree to this thought, please like, comment, share and follow. And also comment if you disagree at any point.

We Parents make all efforts to give our child a Happy childhood. While do so, at times we overdo. Please read, To know how you can save a preschooler from stress of learning.

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Happy Childhood, let me put it differently

My hobby is gardening, and it reminds me of my Happy childhood. That is why the season of rain, greenery brings more joy to me. I love watching plants grow. I feel joyful when around lush greens. When  plants get best environmental conditions they grow and flourish well. By profession, I am a preschool teacher, so I am always around lots of energy and positivity. I enjoy their cute questions, observations, their unique understanding of the world around them. They smile back, if they get one as greetings. I love watching toddlers grow and get ready for their formal schooling. Happy childhood is all about joy and happiness.

Happy childhood is every child's right.

Let’s give them a Happy childhood

It is July, season of rain. Best time to plan, design, redesign, shift, your terrace, kitchen garden, balcony, front garden,back yard or any other place that you have.

It also best time for the Nursery owners and farmers to plan for upcoming season.

It is July, also season for School admissions. Best time to plan admitting your 2-3 years old to his very first play school, shifting a 6 years old to a formal school, shifting a primary student to a middle school because you think the other school will do justice to your child, shifting a ninth grader to a school which provides better preparatory classes for tenth and higher studies, shifting your confused and still adjusting adolescent to coaching centres that produce a batch of adults with tired minds.

It is also best time for parents to choose best subject for their eleventh grader, because, in present parenting style, parents think their child is good at their choice of subject, and that very subject will decide the fate of your child.

It is know fact, we, the parents know it all. We everytime know what is best for our child. We even know which are their choice of subjects. And we think it is part of giving them a Happy childhood

Ok, let me not confuse you, with these long and complex sentences. Let’s just consider one part at a time.

Coming back to our gardeners, they put seeds first in green house, in seedling trays. They  make the environment suitable for these seedlings, so they could grow properly.

Similarly,  we admit our toddlers to homeschooling, a playschool or priprimary school setup. Yes, it is true that play schools, Preschool and Preprimary schools are places  which are designed keeping in mind the learning requirements to this age group. It provides separate setup, separate set of teachers, who are smiling, motherly and most importantly soft spoken. The curriculum also gives these schools the liberty to do things at a pace which is not too tiring for the child.

  Just imagine if the gardener decides to put some of the seedlings in to the open garden area, within 15 days of their life. Nature is very kind, they will still grow. Gardener, might feel happy, that he has saved his time by shifting the seedlings early. But will this not put some stress to these seedlings? Gardener could have avoided that harsh Sun or heavy rains for few more days.

As parents, we have made plans for our child’s future, a timeline set for everything in their Happy childhood.

Some parents come to our Kindergarten school, trust us, follow the age criteria and admit their child accordingly.

Some parents come to us with better plans.

” Mam, my child is 2 and a half years old, but I know she is very active, so I request you to please admit her in a class higher than her age group.”

To this, we as teachers tell them, that it will just lead to alot of stress to your child. School will be a new place for her to adjust to. On top of that if she is admitted to a class where all the other children  are one year elder to her, she will have to adjust and cope up with that batch. A batch which is physically and mentally one year elder to her.

Some parents agree to teachers point of view and some don’t.

This lengthy writeup is addressed to all those who do not agree to our request. 

Trust me on this, at this early years of life, this difference in mental age counts.

Imagine, at this prewriting age first day of school, girl is sitting in a class learning to hold a pencil in her grip, where everyone else has mastered the prewriting strokes.

She still has to develope her fine motorskills and hand-eye coordination.

Oh! this is not enough, she will be doing some extra effort at home to hold pencil and learning to write, because, parents want her to catch-up with the class too.

Homework pressure, and peer pressure at this age is too much to handle for a child.

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE

Be the patient Gardener, give your child, his time to grow.

Don’t be the gardener who just wanted to shift his seedlings in hurry.

DON’T SAVE YOUR TIME, BY STRESSING A CHILD. 

SAVE YOUR CHILD, BY STRETCHING HIS CHILDHOOD.

I wish this message of positive schooling and Stress-free childhood reaches every parent. Every one deserves a stress-free happy childhood. If you support this philosophy of extending childhood years, please like, share, comment and follow.

We think we are doing it right. And the same situations comes many times. We unknowingly become hindrance to the growth of our child. And he has to face a lot of peer pressure. It repeats in school during the classes and at home. Children get homework, assignments, project work and many more activities for which student needs some guidance from parents. Let’s make their project solve the purpose, for what it was meant. Many times we as parents don’t do the way it should be done. To know common mistake that we do get for project work , please follow link: https://happyheartforever.com/2019/07/14/make-it-precious-not-beautiful/

Happy childhood is the best gift.

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